If you’re in a rut of feeling bad, the prospect of feeling great much of the time might be intimidating. So intimidating, in fact, that you might very well avoid positive feelings altogether. One study published in Journal […]

Many issues we face would make much more sense if we considered them self-punishment. At least we’d be starting from a practical place. Instead, most of us try solve problems by complaining. Then we play an endless, neurotic

To learn how to be happy consistently, at some point in life all of us need realize one key thing: The obstacles to happiness are on the inside, not the outside. The big question for those learning how

Welcome to the Enlighten Me Survey Rejection Attraction Quiz! This quiz assesses how prone you are to rejection. Many of us feel chronic low self-esteem and some form of rejection on a regular basis. Further, we subconsciously set

What would happen in your life if you were more assertive when you need to be? For most people who lack assertiveness, miracles would happen. You’d be able to speak up and get what you need from others.

Some simple things seem impossible to change. And some people seem impossible! Are you in a relationship with an impossible person? You probably didn’t intend for it to turn out this way. At the same time, impossible relationships

Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind. Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923. He continued: Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze,

Guest Post By Christopher Butler Spawning from the likes of spiritual sages like Louise Hay, Esther Hicks, and Doreen Virtue, affirmations have become a part of mainstream culture. Repeat your intention and it will magically come to pass;

Subconscious questions can play a large part in how you are feeling in your life. If you’re feeling chronically bad in some area of your life, chances are you are doing something to cause the stress in a

Marriage is a boon to millions of well-adjusted couples who savor the intimacy and emotional safety that only a committed relationship can offer. Unhappy marriage, however, is a modern plague that is literally taking lives. And there is

Are you wishing your spouse or significant other treated you with more kindness, love and respect? If so, I have good news and bad news: 1. The good:  I have formula that absolutely works when there is any

We all have it – that one monstrous personal issue that gets the best of us time and again. Even with education and therapy, the monster rages on. Often, we keep this mother of all problems a secret,

Your mind inflicts self torturing and suffering like no other person can. Other people can hurt you, but only your mind can take that hurt, magnify it, extend it over time, give you bad dreams, stress you into

Life is a series of wrong turns…that’s a pretty good metaphor for a lot of us. The way we see life is pretty powerful in determining the way we live life. If I tell myself that life is

The iNLP Center AHA Solution self-sabotage program breaks psychological attachments into twelve types and helps you understand your type, or types, and how to end the cycle. Because this is an online self-sabotage program, we’ve wondered which psychological

How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved? Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe

Do you wish you knew how to be more positive? Do you wish you were a more positive person in general? Do you meet positive people and wonder why they aren’t more negative? Inner negativity is a universal

Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain? Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of

This article is likely to provoke the following defenses: Anger, disbelief, mirth, shame, confusion, blame, fear, intellectual scorn, emotional paralysis, self-criticism, other criticism, a numb feeling and other means of avoiding the truth. Read on with caution, and

Are you struggling to create a behavioral change or a develop a new habit? Fewer things are more frustrating than failing to make changes that appear to be so simple. It’s as if you were convinced you could

An iNLP life coaching student recently asked if she needed to do anything to prepare a strategy session with me. After I replied to her email, I realized that I had just discovered the simplest success formula ever!

We all know the feeling that comes with being criticized or verbally attacked. The initial response of shock, fear and anger seem to be hardwired. Learning some Jedi mind tricks is essential for a jedi to survive. Defensiveness