Controlling people. Are you sick of everyone trying to control you? It’s easy to get sick of controlling people. They think they know what’s best for you. They feel like they need to approve of every decision you make. They…  

NLP anchoring is such a cool and simple tool. Based on the work of Nobel Prize-winning psychologist Ivan Pavlov, basic NLP anchoring is done by pairing physical touch with a feeling or behavior you want to have at your disposal….  

This article offers a unique perspective on self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior. Are you ready for the twisted truth about self-sabotage? Read on if you dare.  Despite extensive experience with Neuro-Linguistic Programming and life coaching, for over 30 years I wondered why I…  

NLP timeline refers to the way you organize the concept of time on the inside. Everyone needs a way to differentiate among the personal past, present, and future. Otherwise, you’d have no way of knowing if that romantic walk on the…  

Erin Falconer – the online sensation from PicktheBrain.com, isn’t living the life her parents had planned for her. Mom and dad intended their smart and talented daughter to become an attorney. After acing the LSAT in preparation for law school,…  

Neuro-Linguistic Programming is so spot-on that most people who learn NLP realize it should be taught in primary school. By the end of this article, you may agree! What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)? Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a set of skills…  

It started out as a tropical wave that came off the western coast of Africa and ended up as the tenth most intense hurricane in history. Hurricane Maria was the thirteenth named storm in a hyperactive year that broke all…  

Wait…these life coach skills worked in my training!? It’s so much fun to learn life coach skills. You’re engaged in a lively community. The trainers are experts. Your peers are encouraging. And the life coaching skills are a revelation. And…  

A good percentage of iNLP Center Life Coach Certification students want to become an executive coach or business coach. We wanted to learn why, so we asked. This post is a report of their responses. We choose the most recent…  

In this post: • Neuro-Linguistic Programming’s future pacing technique • Amazing health research • How future pacing installs positive expectations • Key to igniting feel-good hormones • Specific examples of future pacing Let’s learn how NLP future pacing creates positive…  

We surveyed our last 100 coach certification students at the beginning of their coach certification program to ask about the primary obstacle to their success. This post summarizes the replies of those who want to offer business coaching once they…  

It’s a great time to be a well-trained executive coach!  An executive coach has an unprecedented opportunity to fill the looming soft skills gap in businesses today. Business coaching is an $11 billion industry in the United States alone and it’s…  

In this post, your subconscious mind is going to reach up and give you a cold, refreshing slap in the face. The results could be dramatic, especially when you use the free workbook (right here or at the bottom of…  

The objection I can’t is common in coaching and therapy. When people say I can’t, how do we proceed as one who is facilitating change? This tutorial will present a viable way to work with this objection using NLP tools….  

NLP submodalities have been taught in NLP training, used by NLP practitioners, and discussed in the best NLP books since the 1970s. Lots of new NLP submodality patterns have been introduced over the years and typically operate on the same…  

When Chris Gardner showed up to the job interview of his life looking homeless with dried paint in his hair, interpersonal skills were his only hope. Fresh out of jail, sitting in front of the hiring board at Dean Witter,…  

You need to have the right temperament to be a life coach. For most people, temperament isn’t something they can simply learn. It is an ability they need to be able to bring to the table on their own to…  

Rebecca Tracey from Uncaged Life,  the guru of getting real about marketing your coaching business, challenged me with a couple of direct questions about life coach training at the iNLP Center. Rather than respond via email, I wrote this post….  

Can you double your life coach salary by doing some simple things that escape most coaches? Those willing to learn how life coach marketing really works can, you bet. If you’re serious about boosting your life coach salary by getting…  

How we see, experience, and understand the world is very subjective. Are we living in a copied world or a true world? This question is one of the most important questions we have to look at, analyze, and work to…  

If you want to discover how to be a life coach who succeeds – who actually makes it – you’re going to have to be willing to do things differently than most life coaches. This post will give you the…  

UPDATED March 19, 2017 Have you ever had one of those precious moments when you’re keenly aware that everything is right with your world? In those perfect moments, your life values are being fulfilled. And you don’t even have to…  

Welcome! The iNLP Center self awareness test is on this page. You’ll get your results once you hit the submit button. No email or obligation is required. You can scroll down to the quiz right away, but we suggest reading…  

Overcoming Obstacles in Life with NLP: Overview of 4-Step Process This four-step process for identifying and overcoming obstacles that can be readily dealt with using NLP tools, as well overcoming obstacles that are external – real-world limitations. Example: I need…  

Before I tell you about my friend’s transformation, I will explain what NLP Perceptual Positions is.  NLP Perceptual Positions is a technique that has a person experience a situation from multiple positions – first, second and third. This can be…  

NEW: Check out iNLP Center’s new Hypnotherapy Training. This post is hypnosis weight loss script I wrote for clients to help you pursue weight loss with all your heart and end self-sabotage. The text is below in italics. You’ll also…  

NEW: Check out iNLP Center’s new Hypnotherapy Training. Hypnosis for weight loss. It’s a viable option for several reasons: • Hypnosis has a proven track record for weight loss (see references below). • Hypnosis for weight loss is widely accessible….  

How iNLP Center Helped Me Earn My First $100/Hr Copywriting Client Want to learn how learning NLP techniques for copywriting can uplevel your career? For this story you have to travel back in time. Not far. Just around a year…  

Want to know how to increase willpower? This post will cover what willpower is and how to increase willpower systematically. If you apply these three NLP tips consistently, you’ll find your motivation and willpower increasing a little more each day….  

Building strong relationships with others is essential in all areas of our lives: business, friendships, dating, parenting, etc. However, our daily word choices can undermine our attempts at getting closer to other people. We can unwittingly be marking ourselves as untrustworthy,…  

Are you feeling rejected and not willing to accept each opportunity to feel good? If you’re in a rut of feeling bad, the prospect of feeling good all the time might be intimidating. So intimidating, in fact, that you might…  

Knowing how to use a story to demonstrate a particular technique is one of many good coaching skills to learn. Have you experienced the challenge of trying to convince a client the value of learning NLP and basic psychology to…  

Want to feel good all day? This simple to-do list formula can keep you feeling good all day. It’s a fact, when you accomplish tasks, you feel good. But, sometimes you just can’t get that task accomplished. Often, it’s not…  

As a life coach, you work with clients on a number of challenges, but if you don’t address the one issue that rules them all, you’re flirting with disaster. Your client’s inner critic. If you can’t navigate the turbulent waters…  

Arguments are stressful but happen. Learning conflict resolution strategies is important to turning verbal conflict into productive communication. In theory, every single argument in life can be completely avoided. You do not need to get sucked in. You don’t need…  

Change your thinking by creating alternate futures for yourself. This simple exercise, using an NLP motivation strategy, can lead to greater motivation in the present. Much of what we need to do requires intentionally motivating ourselves. The rewards of life…  

So you want to become a life coach? It’s a marvelous opportunity as long you understand certain industry secrets that most life coach trainees haven’t realized yet. You might as well become familiar the industry side of life coaching, right?…  

Are your self-critical voices running your life? Learn how to develop the mindset to stop the behavior now. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you’re doing. If you tend to be self-critical of yourself, even the best day…  

Why is it that we sometimes make good decisions and sometimes bad decisions? Impulsiveness? Impatience? Pressure? Read this article to learn how to stop making bad choices from now. Analyzing and understanding the differences in our decision making process can…  

Importance of Communication Skills – Get Inspired! Never underestimate the importance of communication skills. This post reviews 10 scientific studies in varied areas of life. Each study underscores how important communication skills are and highlights the surprising benefits of using…  

Our students want to know which NLP books I recommend during our NLP Training. Below are my top 10 NLP books. Which one would you start with? And what do you want and NLP to do for you? Next, let…  

Classic NLP decision strategies are part of NLP practitioner training. First thing in the morning, I get up and make a pot of coffee. No biggie. It’s just a routine. And I’m certainly glad I don’t need to reevaluate morning…  

If you want to harness the power of the NLP circle of excellence technique, I get it. This simple yet powerful NLP method is a classic favorite among NLP students. It just works! And the NLP circle of excellence is…  

You’ve been through your life coach training but still aren’t sure how to work with coaching clients. But now you’re in the moment with a real, paying client who wants results! How will you know what to do? So there…  

Have you ever met two people who went through the same experience, at the same time, with the same circumstances, but saw the experiences in completely different ways? This is not on the experience level only. This difference in the…  

NLP Accessing States is an NLP model that can help you become a more powerful individual. NLP Accessing States is a way to be more intentional in each area of your life. It allows you be prepared for any situation…  

There are many times during daily life that it is useful to be able to see from a different perspective. In relation to your significant other, or while making important decisions at work, knowing how the other person is thinking…  

I guess we’re all two people. One daylight, and the one we keep in shadow. — Bruce Wayne/Batman Disclaimer: This article is my opinion about exploring the dark side of your personality. No scientific claim is being made. If you’re…  

So there you are, rowing along in the sea of life, seeking out your little island paradise where you can find happiness. How’s it going? If you’re struggling, it could be because your mind has turned against you. A part…  

Want to Practice Mindfulness for Chronic Pain? The good news about mindfulness for chronic pain never seems to end. Scientists have now found out that it is a good way to reduce chronic pain. Mindfulness is an ancient practice originating…  

Can you use NLP to handle disappointment? Of course. The method that comes to mind is the NLP reframing technique. We teach the reframing technique in module 11 of our online NLP practitioner certification training. At the heart of reframing…  

Can NLP and mindfulness work together in surprisingly compatible ways? Yes! In this post I will show you how (specifically). Mindfulness helps you become consciously and keenly aware of the present moment. When you become mindful of your issues (problems,…  

Mindfulness techniques have found new ground in consumerist societies and as a result, people are learning to be consciously in the moment, often for the first time in their lives. The truth of the matter is that mindfulness techniques have…  

If you have negative feelings you can’t ‘get rid of’ you’ll find an unlikely explanation for them in this post, if you read it carefully. Left alone, they can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Most of us confuse cause and…  

What are NLP VAK Modalities? Do you feel like there is someone in your life that you just can’t see eye to eye with? Like no matter what you do, you just can’t communicate, or get through to this person?…  

NLP Accessing States – Module 4 (NLP Practitioner Training & Certification) For me, learning how to change state is essential. I go through many days stressed-filled with my responsibilities of being a mother, wife and student. NLP accessing states has…  

If you’re seeking addictions treatment, it may be important to work with an individual or group that specializes in dual diagnosis treatment for addictions. A dual diagnosis approach takes into consideration other underlying mental health concerns that may be relevant…  

Of course you understand that your prospects need to be properly motivated before they will buy something from you. Knowing this, however, is virtually useless unless you know how to use NLP to motivate clients. You’ve got to understand how…  

If you don’t know why it’s important to understand what others want, you’re in dire straits. In case you’ve never considered it, you are alive on this earth because somebody wanted something. Using perceptual positions will help you understand others’…  

I’ve always had enthusiasm about using NLP for stress and to resolve tough physical symptoms. Chronic pain, headaches, migraines and even allergies can be brought on by chronic stress. Even mainstream sources concede that relaxation techniques have a direct physical…  

Building Rapport with NLP: Module 3 NLP Practitioner Training When you first meet someone, the decision to like someone is usually made pretty quickly. This is based on common interests, beliefs, or because you admire their character and aspire to…  

It’s easy to fall in love. Too easy. Our biochemicals make it such that we can fall head over heels, get physical and feel attached to someone who is a virtual stranger. Commitments are made. Lives are rearranged. And then…  

If you have a boss or sales manager that hates you, what to do may surprise you. We’ll show you how using NLP for sales can make sense of it. I remember in detail a young sales executive that continuously…  

With all the productivity tips online today, you’d think anyone could make procrastination a thing of the past. This post will explore why those tips fail. Chronic procrastination often has roots in emotional life. We’ll discuss these roots and how…  

You get stuck in life sometimes. So do I. Being stuck is one of my all-time favorite places to be. In fact, I’ve never been so lucky as when I’ve been overwhelmed with fear and personal misery. Over time, I’ve…  

There are two kinds of obstacles that prevent success. 1. External obstacles can stand in the way of success. 2. Internal obstacles can sabotage success. In this short post, we’ll give you the formula for handling both of them. The…  

Think of your top goal in life right now. Stop reading until you’re holding it firmly in mind. Otherwise, you may miss the point. Now, here is the all important question that determines your success or failure when working toward…  

The secret of how to make more sales begins with creating the right plan. You must know specifically what you need to do. You’ll need to create your plan in a systematic way.This article below will set you up for…  

Sometimes I wish there were a guaranteed way to filter every negative message as perceived in childhood. If I could do that, I’d wipe the slate clean! The memories might remain, but the negative messages from those memories would magically…  

There is probably an important goal you’d like to meet…one that has been difficult to pull off. You’re capable of getting there. However, if you’re struggling with follow through, this post will tell you why and what to do about…  

Sometimes we want change that feels impossible. Losing weight, making lots of money, feeling confident, being at peace, changing a relationship…can seem out of reach. When you’ve been a certain way for a long time, other options feel unrealistic, right?…  

The first principle of success is desire. – Robert Collier If you’ve come to this post, chances are that you want to change some aspect of yourself. The question is, how deeply do you want change? Let’s take this brief…  

Image credit: Seven Quotes Have you ever considered the phases life coaching? If you want to be successful as a coach or client, you should. Three clear phases make up a successful life coaching process. Phase three is where the…  

Oppression – the state of being subject to unjust treatment or control. We’re used to hearing about oppressive governments, but what about the oppressive feeling that circumstances in general dictate your life? Forced submission. Most of us might not consciously…  

Driving my teenage daughters to school this morning, I was pissed. Traffic was slow. Then, we got stuck behind a school bus. I pounded the steering wheel. “Ah, man! Why did people have to let that bus in!” Noticing my…  

Why do we need a reliable way to create a personal paradigm shift? Because on the whole we’re going about solving persistent personal problems the wrong way. Typical solutions to average problems usually create more average problems. This is because…  

The most interesting part of getting in our own way is how blind we are when doing it. Think about it. Who really wants to get in their own way? When you can see obstacles, you can avoid them. So,…  

If you’ve come here in search of tidy tips on how to have a positive attitude, you’re in for a shock. A lack of positive attitude tips is NOT the problem. Most of us know more positive attitude advice than…  

It’s one of the first things NLP practitioners screen for When someone desires a specific outcome, make sure that he or she is in control of it. If the desired outcome requires someone else to change, then the outcome itself…  

I didn’t realize it at the time, but a mentor once made sense of my entire life. I was complaining. My wife wouldn’t cooperate and was making my life a living hell. My job wasn’t going well because the system was…  

I’m not here to tell you that non-verbal communication is more influential than verbal communication. You already know that, right? Yet, how can you harness the power of non-verbal communication without spending years studying it? You’ll have four great ideas…  

Can you visualize success as a way to improve your performance in life? Research now says yes. And, the success runs deeper than you might think. Interestingly, the more I review the literature, the more I find examples of decades…  

NLP Metaphors reveal unique insights about people and relationships. Oddly enough, they also increase your perception skills, according to research. This post will show you how to recognize simple metaphors, use them to understand others, and build stronger bonds with…  

Super annoying people. Most of us have them in our lives – or run into them from time to time. If you’ve got an ‘annoyer’ in your life, here’s a totally harmless way to shrink that person down to size….  

Researchers from the University of Queensland, Australia have uncovered a key to great relationships and personal popularity. It’s the ability to take another’s point of view. In NLP, we call it, “going second position.” The research, which appears in the…  

I remember sitting in church as a child, bored to tears. And, for the life of me, I couldn’t sit still. If the church and my mother had only understood that I needed to squirm to learn, a lot more…  

You can intentionally use two distinct perspectives to skyrocket your happiness and minimize your angst on a day-to-day basis. In NLP, we call these perspectives Associated and Dissociated. Learning what these are and how to use them can turn your…  

Imagine this bizarre scenario: You suddenly lose your ability to worry about anything in the future. . Time to celebrate? Not exactly. If you couldn’t worry about anything, you would absolutely tend to cross streets without looking! Worry can be…  

If you miss this short video, you’re missing out on one of the greatest secrets to happiness. You’ll get it in the first 30 seconds. Then, watch the experiment unfold until you get to the climactic results. Go ahead….  …  

Recently I received the following note from a reader: So the story about the woman who was in the marriage for 13 years and she hated her husband and realized she was secretly into rejection…Yeah, I get that. But I…  

Full disclosure: This site sells NLP training. Our potential bias is in the open, unlike that of the notorious editor of the NLP Wikipedia page. May you judge the content here upon its own merit. If you’ve read the Wikipedia…  

Let’s get real. If you want the best NLP training in the world, you are going to play a major part in making it happen. And it begins knowing how to choose the best NLP training for you. In this…  

Your thoughts are separate from the outside world, right? I’ve always assumed this to be the case, although I cannot tell you why I’ve assumed it. At any rate, it’s very interesting that a recent study conducted by researchers at…  

Sex addiction is prevalent. The National Council on Sexual Addiction Compulsivity has suggested that up to 8% of Americans suffer from sex addiction. This includes up to 24 million people. Viable treatment options need to be promoted and further developed….  

I feel happy a lot of the time. But when I get stuck feeling bad, I typically find twisted logic pinging around in my brain. This twisted logic keeps me invested in hanging onto the bad feelings. In other words,…  

Do you want to eliminate all obstacles in the way of your goals? You can. I’m going to show you how, right here and now. In fact, you’re going to punch failure right in the face and knock it out….  

If you’re in a rut of feeling bad, the prospect of feeling great much of the time might be intimidating. So intimidating, in fact, that you might very well avoid positive feelings altogether. One study published in Journal of Psychosomatic…  

 Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor, practicing personal coach, co-founder of the iNLP Center, co-author of the AHA Solution for self-sabotage, and author of Your Achilles Eel. People do self-sabotaging things all the time, but these behaviors aren’t…  

I hate people, therefore I hate myself. -Anonymous It never occurred to me that you can globally hate people until my high school buddy showed me the ropes. We were standing on the side of my house shooting the bull…  

I won’t pull punches here because I know the following applies to me, too. Enlightenment isn’t all love and light. It’s not for wimps. Enlightenment embraces the truth. And the truth isn’t always pretty. If you are seeking personal enlightenment,…  

What I learned from studying NLP Anchored States in the NLP Practitioner Training at the iNLP Center: Our daily lives are filled with triggers that cause automatic responses, whether it be a physiological, emotional state, or behavior. These are called…  

The information on this page will help you develop unstoppable willpower. You’ll find it is MUCH easier than you imagined! We will also invite you to participate in our 5-Day Willpower Boot Camp – free of charge – In the…  

That depends on you. The story goes something like this: Imagine really wanting some fresh coconut milk. You decide to go out and gather a few freshly fallen nuts. Now, how to open one No one can open a coconut…  

If you believe that negative emotions are the only ones people avoid, consider the following. A psychological study recently confirmed that depression is not caused by the simple presence of a negative state of mind. There is another huge, overlooked…  

More than 150 people and counting have taken at least one of our new email coaching programs. Hope and I have learned a lot about the self-sabotaging habits that people tend to struggle with. I’d like to share the top…  

Many issues we face would make much more sense if we considered them self-punishment. At least we’d be starting from a practical place. Instead, most of us try solve problems by complaining. Then we play an endless, neurotic game of…  

So you’re sitting with a friend – let’s call her Sally – over lunch. Nice day. The two of you are having a ball munching a delicious meal, sipping your favorite beverage and discussing frivolous things. Life is good. Then,…  

Note: If there is room in this email coaching program, status will read: Available. Please proceed. If there is no room, status will read: Program FULL. Please check back in one week. Status: Available. Please proceed. We’re always looking for…  

  NLP tools can get you unstuck quickly and effectively. Specifically, use NLP tools to change your state when you need to. In NLP, “state” refers to a person’s subjective experience of self and the world at any point in…  

To learn how to be happy consistently, at some point in life all of us need realize one key thing: The obstacles to happiness are on the inside, not the outside. The big question for those learning how to be…  

The life skills in this post will get you through any difficulty…almost any. If it is indeed your time to die, none of the following skills will help. As long as you’re still above ground, one or more of following…  

You want to solve a serious problem, so you call in the big guns. Assembling teams of experts to address tough issues – in business, healthcare, education and beyond – is a common approach when the going gets tough. Putting…  

Stuff goes wrong. That’s just part of life. The question is, what are you doing to increase the onslaught of stress symptoms that accompanies it? The simple mental habit mentioned below has been shown to create the following stress symptoms:…  

A recent study indicates that previously held notions about exercise may be misleading people into sedentary lifestyles. You’ve heard the advice. “When you exercise, never over do it to the point of losing your breath. You should be able to…  

Ever wondered if talking to a coach produces measurable results? Recent research among a very challenged population suggests that coaching is not only viable, but a necessary step to resolve challenging physical or emotional issues. In the research below, study…  

With 25% of the adult population of England and 33% of Americans tipping the scales of obesity, researchers are now investigating the psychology of weight loss success and body image. They want to determine what makes the difference between success…  

Do you know, or do people say you’re a narcissist? Can a personality disorder as extensive as narcissism be diagnosed with a single question? In the case of narcissism, the answer is yes. Researchers have published an article in PLOS…  

According to a 2007 survey completed by the United States government, almost 10% of the American population confirmed that they had been engaged in meditation during the past twelve months. Given such a high volume of practice, scientists have taken…  

Neuroscientists are becoming hip to the idea that if you change your perception of a significant memory, you change your present day feeling and behavior. This is something that NLP practitioners have known through experience decades, so it’s nice to…  

Are you suffering from lack of appreciation from your man? If so, you may find the following perspective on men to be very enlightening. It might even spur you into action to get the appreciation you deserve. It’s part of…  

Since we launched our Rejection Attraction Quiz, 1200 people have taken it. So, THANK YOU to all who took the quiz. By the way, if you haven’t taken it and want to, you can take the Rejection Attraction Quiz here….  

Welcome to the Enlighten Me Survey Rejection Attraction Quiz! This quiz assesses how prone you are to rejection. Many of us feel chronic low self-esteem and some form of rejection on a regular basis. Further, we subconsciously set ourselves up…  

Note: This page is a work in progress. As our understanding of the Rejection Attachment develops, the information here will be updated. The information below is not intended to diagnose or treat any mental health condition and is to be…  

Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor, practicing personal coach, co-founder of the iNLP Center, co-author of the AHA Solution  and author of Your Achilles Eel. Negative self-talk is one of the most popular forms of self-torture. To one…  

Today Hope and I decided to something cool and different. We thought you’d enjoying seeing some classic NLP demonstrated. So, we made an “action video” for you. In this new video, I work as a classic NLP practitioner with Hope,…  

Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor, personal coach and blogger for some of the top health, mental health and personal development websites in the world. You’re at midlife – and you’ve got challenges. You’re busy making a living,…  

Arguing is a normal part of any close relationship, right? Yet, when you consider the delusions that lead to arguments and the proven detriment to your health, you may begin to reconsider just how “normal” all those arguments really are….  

This is a VERY short video with a super effective technique for handing your inner critic. The technique is RARE, so you’ve most likely NEVER heard of it before. Better yet: It works! If you like this video, you’ll LOVE…  

If you’re like me, you have a few things in life that you love to do and do very well. You also have heartfelt obligations toward others and passions that you need to say YES to. Then there all the…  

Want to know how to Create Rapport, Connection and Trust? We all want these in our personal and professional relationships. Yet, how often do we intentionally set out to create them? And if we did set such a conscious intention,…  

I used to wake up every day with a sickening chant going off in my mind. I hate my life. I hate my life! I hate my life! This went on for years. And it was true. I hated my…  

If the relationship between a counselor and client is not strong, if rapport is not established, effective counseling is very unlikely to occur. To that end, NLP offers several strategies. To build natural rapport with clients more quickly, follow the…  

What would happen in your life if you were more assertive when you need to be? For most people who lack assertiveness, miracles would happen. You’d be able to speak up and get what you need from others. You’d be…  

In NLP, the term “state” refers to how you experience yourself and the world at any given moment in time. Your state changes constantly – food, oxygen, internal and external stimuli play a role. In NLP jargon, a psychological state…  

If you are a hard working woman who gives and gives, yet still feels less than, you are not alone. The research summarized below describes women with “low self-esteem” who work extra hard to maintain their marriages because they don’t…  

Erin Gruwell interview conducted by Mike Bundrant. Orriginally published in Healthy Times Newspaper. I thought it was just another movie involving tough kids and a dedicated teacher.  Perhaps I am jaded, but it wasn’t on the top of my list…  

Watch out, men. Here it comes. Some credible scientists now claim that it is YOUR attitude that makes or breaks your marriage. Could it be true? First, let’s look at the evidence. Then, we can draw some fair conclusions and…  

Ever feel frustrated, constricted, trapped or powerless? Most of us know how these emotional states inhibit us psychologically, but that’s not the whole story. Feeling emotionally powerless also makes you physically weaker, according to science. Read the research summary below….  

A lot of us parents think we need to project an image of perfection to our kids. No, we aren’t struggling. No, we don’t argue with our spouse. And, of course, we aren’t filled with anxiety! Everything is fine. We…  

Are you in a relationship with an impossible person? You probably didn’t intend for it to turn out this way. At the same time, impossible relationships don’t “just happen.” It actually takes two people. It’s a conundrum. You’re don’t participate…  

For decades, NLP practitioners have been teaching a simple yet profound technique that puts problems in perspective and leads to solid, healthy decisions. We teach the NLP technique called visual dissociation right here in our online NLP training center. It’s…  

Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind. Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923. He continued: Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze, but they…  

Ever wondered how how simple thoughts affect your body? Have you put off learning how to control your thoughts? Recent research shows how dramatically even the simplest thoughts affect the body. Most people are aware of the fact that pupil…  

Guest Post By Christopher Butler Spawning from the likes of spiritual sages like Louise Hay, Esther Hicks, and Doreen Virtue, affirmations have become a part of mainstream culture. Repeat your intention and it will magically come to pass; this is…  

Do you sometimes think you hate your husband? Can you become filled with resentment and bitterness when he walks into the room? When he touches you, do you cringe? Do you daydream of a life that is far different than…  

You don’t have to be single to wonder whether or not you are ready for a relationship. In fact, millions of people who aren’t really ready find themselves in the middle of relationships that are going.badly. Regardless of your status,…  

Here’s what some of our students have said about our Cooling the Fire program: Canale D.: I love the concept of this tool. I have always been a retaliator when attacked because i thought i was defending myself but this…  

Carrie Ann Inaba’s Top Six Health Tips We’ve seen Carrie Ann Inaba as the no-nonsense judge on ABC’s hit Dancing with the Stars. It is also inspiring to learn that Carrie Ann Inaba is very well educated in matters related…  

Imagine that you are driving down a country road. Suddenly, the road comes to a “T” – a three-way intersection that requires you to turn left or right. You look up and notice the most puzzling road sign. The sign…  

I used to tell Mike that it felt as if we were ping-ponging against each other. I would do something that would cause him to react that would in turn cause me to react, and so on and so on,…  

“That all started in my 30’s,” Jennifer Aniston admits her insecurities began during her relationship to Brad Pitt. Jennifer Aniston went through her awkward stage when she was married to Brad Pitt. Instead of experiencing insecurities when she was younger…  

You’re going along trying to mind your own business And then, Whamo..! Something happens (or someone happens) that ruins your good mood. It could be reading something horrible in the news. It could be realizing that you have to do…  

People usually assume that a mother’s mood affects her child. Now, scientific evidence links the two in surprising ways. A study published in the Journal of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics showed a connection between maternal anxiety and depression and problem…  

At 7:15 AM, Martin opens his eyes and makes the same vow he made yesterday: Today, I am going to eat a clean diet. And when I get off work, I am going straight to the gym. At 7 AM…  

From remembering that first kiss to where you put your glasses, memories play a vital role in the human experience and existence. It’s always been assumed that those with sharper memory have an easier time and don’t need to work…  

Are you tired of being taken for granted? You aren’t alone. In my research for this article, I’ve identified at least 100 articles from major news and psychology sources. Most of them cite lack of appreciation as a primary cause…  

In NLP, we model ourselves after people who have already achieved what we want. If you want to lose weight, go to someone who lost weight successfully and learn what they did. If you want to overcome a habit, find…  

Are there parts of yourself that you hate? For some, these are physical parts. You hate your nose, your lips, your thighs, belly or ankles because you believe they are so ugly. For others, a psychological part is ruining things….  

A bad relationship is a living hell, yet millions of people stay in them – sometimes for life. Why? There are reasons. I recently set out to compare notes with my colleague, Jake Eagle of Reology.org. Jake is an extremely…  

Is your life what you always thought it would be? In many ways, this is a trick question. Nobody has the capacity to anticipate all the twists and turns life has to offer. Young people don’t have the life experience…  

If you’re feeling chronically bad in some area of your life, chances are you are doing something to cause the stress in a way you’ve yet to understand. That’s right – you. Even if your husband/wife/boss/enemy does have something to…  

The NLP Meta Model is a set of simple yet uncommon questions. Once you learn how to ask yourself and others the Meta Model questions, you’ll discover something amazing. What you actually thought was going on in your communication is…  

One day, my wife Hope was a hard working home school mom without a personal goal. Ninety days later, she was standing on stage in front of 3000 screaming fans. Cameras were flashing as she beamed with pride, a first…  

Are you tired of having unfulfilled relationships, one right after another, even though you thought you were doing everything right? Learn about the… Breakthrough Philosophy Proven to Create Fulfilling Romantic Relationships That Stand the Test of Time “Relationships are difficult.”…  

Marriage is a boon to millions of well-adjusted couples who savor the intimacy and emotional safety that only a committed relationship can offer. Unhappy marriage, however, is a modern plague that is literally taking lives. And there is research to…  

Are you wishing your spouse or significant other treated you with more kindness, love and respect? If so, I have good news and bad news: 1. The good:  I have formula that absolutely works when there is any potential for…  

Lack of motivation may be in the top three problems life coaches encounter with their clients. It’s so common! Does lack of motivation prevent you from doing what you want? Most lack of motivation comes from subconscious mental strategies, many…  

Do you find yourself feeling ashamed even when you’ve done nothing wrong? Those of us with shame issues know all too well the rush of warm blood to the neck and face that makes us want to run and hide….  

You can change your entire life from the inside out. You can buck all the odds and make your life exactly what it has been crying out to become. You can do it. The results are for real and the…  

You want your spouse, partners or friends to love you more, but are you up for it? If you’re like me, you tend to resist when others try to intervene in your life. This resistance is resistance to being loved….  

Can you say it? I am emotionally attached to the negativity in my past. That attachment to interferes with my present-day life as an adult. I remember entering therapy for the first time 25 years ago. I interviewed several therapists…  

Are you as independent as you’d like to be? Over the years I have personally asked hundreds of clients this very question. According to my estimation, 90% respond in the negative. Here’s how loss of perceived independence happens in so…  

It’s in the past. Forget it and move on! This is typical advice from a thousand armchair psychologists. It is also common to hear this from professional counselors and coaches. Little do these well-intended folks know that this is not…  

Here’s the undeniable truth: Individuality is the most valued and most feared gift a person can possess. Everyone has the gift of individuality. Most people avoid it as if it were poison. Confidence and comfort with individuality is rare. This…  

Change. That’s the name of the game in the personal development world. If you are not selling change, people aren’t interested. This, of course, inspires personal development gurus to promise change when they have no business doing so. People want…  

The top ten stressful events listed on the original Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory included: death of a spouse, divorce, marital separation, jail term, death of a close relative, injury or illness, marriage, loss of job, marriage reconciliation and retirement. As…  

Would you voluntarily hop into a cage with an angry gorilla then wonder how you got stuck with the beast? Dang gorilla is about to kill me! Why should I have to put up with this? You don’t. You put…  

Every time I say what I need, it turns into an argument. So, I just give up, suck it up and go on feeling deprived and resentful. It’s no use speaking up because everyone is too busy to care. I…  

Kenrick Cleveland, Thanks to an interested reader who sent me the mp3, I was able to listen to your intro webinar, The Dark Side of Covert Hypnosis – all 2+ hours of it. Now, I can offer a more informed…  

Can you purposefully activate the deep healing energy that resides within your soul? As recently as a few days ago, I would have been more skeptical than optimistic. After speaking with one of the world’s foremost experts on the healing…  

Someone comes to you for helping and guidance in reaching goal Here’s the goal: I want the weather to remain fair and sunny for the next week. No clouds or rain! I am just sick and tired of bad weather….  

The following is a guest post by Dr. Janice Walton of The Learning Corner, an online counseling supervision provider. In November of 2002, I set a goal of creating a website that offered online coaching, consulting, and supervision for mental…  

A friend sent me a link a few days ago to the latest and greatest NLP and hypnosis scam. Now, I am used to hype in the NLP world, which is why our motto at the iNLP Center is NLP…  

We all have it – that one monstrous personal issue that gets the best of us time and again. Even with education and therapy, the monster rages on. Often, we keep this mother of all problems a secret, protecting it…  

I am thrilled to present this guest post by author Guy Finley. Guy’s work has been translated into 20 languages and has sold more than a million copies worldwide. It is an honor to have him as our special guest….  

NLP therapy? While there are thousands of mental health therapists trained in NLP, which stands for Neurolinguistic Programming, you should think twice before using the term NLP therapy. Why? Because NLP is NOT therapy. In fact, NLP was created as…  

It’s a question that can quietly guide your life. Why am I so unhappy? And it’s a fair question. There are definite reasons why you are unhappy, but that does not mean you understand them. Most us of keep those…  

As you obsess over your list of wants in life, don’t forget to desire the one thing that makes everything else on the list legitimate. In fact, if you don’t want this, all the other goals on your list will…  

The hunt for information on how to change your life is always in full steam, but there may be a more important question. What makes the process of change fulfilling? This is a key to sticking with it. If you…  

Finding happiness and self-acceptance does not need to be a mysterious process. Finding happiness can be a conscious and deliberate undertaking. To seek and find happiness on purpose, you need a process. This is what we are up to in…  

A personal development plan is a very personal guide toward where you want to be in life. Your personal development plan plays a critical role in your individual growth. Do you have one? If not, then this article will serve…  

Your mind inflicts suffering like no other person can. Other people can hurt you, but only your mind can take that hurt, magnify it, extend it over time, give you bad dreams, stress you into oblivion and drag you through…  

Research now shows that the way you handle minor daily stressors – those little annoyances – has a tremendous impact on your long-term health. Human nature is to justify the nasty little moods, childish reactions and general grumpiness because “life…  

Read to find out how the NLP Decision Making Strategy can help you make the right choice every time… I’ll tell you a fact about me and buying cars. I’m really bad at it. I get caught up in the…  

A lot of people think they have a little devil on one shoulder and a little angel on the other. In reality, they have a little devil on one shoulder and a little devil disguised as an angel on the…  

Do you wish you had better ways of getting unstuck? A lot of us subconsciously hold to the misconception that we should never be stuck in the first place. So, when we inevitably get stuck with a low mood, lack…  

Life is a series of wrong turns…that’s a pretty good metaphor for a lot of us. The way we see life is pretty powerful in determining the way we live life. If I tell myself that life is a struggle,…  

The iNLP Center AHA Solution personal development program has been out for one month now. Based on the most finished videos, we can now tell which styles of self-sabotage are the most common. We’ve had a little bet going as…  

Does self-awareness really lead to health and healing? Self-awareness is touted as a powerful form of healing, yet it often does nothing for us. Being aware that you have a problem doesn’t mean the problem is going to magically vanish,…  

We all want to live happy, fulfilled lives. Sometimes, however, it seems like we’ve become experts at avoiding happiness. If you are missing out on your share of happiness, you may have unconscious beliefs that make it impossible to experience…  

There’s lots of talk these days about whether NLP is pseudoscience. Claims have been made. So-called researchers are sneering at the “pseudoscience of NLP.” NLP trainers are up in arms. The debate is very real, as it affects the lives…  

You might not believe the extreme measures I took to win my older brother’s approval. They all failed. When I started businesses that succeeded against the odds, he shrugged his shoulders. When I took up expensive hobbies (that I suck…  

How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved? Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe we actually…  

Do you wish you were a more positive person? Most people do. In fact, inner negativity is a universal problem. Chronic negativity can smother the naturally positive person that you are, deep down. The entire world is suffering with this…  

Does NLP work? This is a question I get from time to time and I have a definite answer. Not everyone likes the answer, but it’s true! I’ve written on the scientific validity of NLP in my response to the…  

Understanding where your spouse is coming from is key to being happier. Your spouse may have no interest at all in understanding him or herself, but by understanding his or her self-sabotage or psychological attachments you can keep him or…  

What is self-sabotage? Self-sabotage is a term we throw around a lot . We know what it is in a general sense or when we see someone doing it. But what is it really? When we talk about self-sabotage, we…  

Weak emotional boundaries are amongst the most confusing of psychological issues because it is very difficult to self-diagnose weak boundaries. Because the emotional boundaries (rules, expectations, protocol) that set the stage for our relationships are initially formed when we are…  

Many people are surprised to learn that their favorite coping mechanism for handling emotional pain actually causes more problems than it solves. Let’s look at four solid steps to effectively dealing with emotional pain and five reactions that trick you…  

Are you a control freak? Or do you live with a control freak? This article will prove that a control freak is not at all what she (or he) seems. With control freaks, what you see is NOT what you…  

If someone offered you a simple rule that guaranteed a super high level of inner peace, would you follow it? I hope so, because no matter how many self-help techniques you use, breaking this one rule will still destroy your…  

Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain? Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of it. Why…  

It’s February 10th, four days before Valentine’s Day. Hope and I are meeting with Michael Grinder to plan our next online training module. Michael is on our training team delivering NLP training to our Japanese students. This training had nothing…  

I don’t usually come out like this, but on days like today I am embarrassed to call myself an NLP trainer. If the foundational skills NLP has to offer weren’t unique, I’d leave the field. Alas, we must put up…  

How does this happen? One day you were in love, excited to spend each moment together. Now, you’re feeling blah and just moving through life pretty much independently. Are you just so used to each other that you don’t notice…  

This article is likely to provoke the following defenses: Anger, disbelief, mirth, shame, confusion, blame, fear, intellectual scorn, emotional paralysis, self-criticism, other criticism, a numb feeling and other means of avoiding the truth. Read on with caution, and realize we’re…  

For more than 20 years I asked some of the best minds and most successful people in the world a simple question. The answers varied, but none of them were satisfying. The most common answers: I don’t know. If we…  

Most people have a secret buried so deep that they forget all about it, but that doesn’t make it less real. So many of us lock this difficult truth away, often taking it to the grave without ever recognizing it,…  

Interviewing Carl Lewis as publisher of Healthy Times was a privilege I will always remember. Here is the original article. Please enjoy! Carl Lewis’ lifetime accomplishments have led to numerous accolades, including being voted “Sportsman of the Century” by the…  

Imagine walking toward a beautiful, white sand beach. The sky is clear, the sun warm. A soft breeze caresses your skin. You can hear the cheerful sounds of your friends enjoying themselves, having the time of their lives on this…  

It might seem impossible to live without fear. Living with some physiological anxiety is inevitable. Anxiety is the brain’s ongoing surveillance to protect you from threats. You should be afraid to touch a hot stove or confront a mugger or…  

Legendary coach John Wooden (1910-2010) has passed on, but I will never forget my 2006 interview with him. He was all but done granting interviews by then, but because I wanted to speak to him about his children’s book, Inch…  

This article is by Mike and Hope Bundrant, although it is written with a singular voice. You can guess who is talking and when! Many of us, including myself, suffer with boughts of low self-esteem. I can be going all…  

Would you like to possess overflowing self-confidence? You can, regardless of what you have tried in the past or how much you doubt yourself right now. How can I make this claim? Because – based on NLP training – I…  

According to research, the average American lies 11 times a week. This surprising finding inspired other researchers to establish a connection between lying and health. They found one. Officially, medical research suggests that telling “fewer” lies increases your physical health….  

Are you struggling to change a behavior or habit? Fewer things are more frustrating than failing to make changes that appear so simple. It’s as if you were convinced you could press the change button at the left by touching …  

An iNLP life coaching student recently asked if she needed to do anything to prepare a strategy session with me. After I replied to her email, I realized that I had just discovered the simplest success formula ever! I asked…  

The following is a guest post by 7-time world champion skydiver and author of the book Above All Else, Dan Brodsky-Chenfeld. It became obvious that the fight was going to happen. I was about to get beat up and it…  

Would you like to have a few ways to gain inner peace on the spot no matter what the circumstance? If so, you will find 91 things in the following list that you can do, right now, to create inner…  

It can be incredibly frustrating dealing with family members who have serious problems. Because we love them so much, it is hard to see them behaving in hurtful ways that make every one around them miserable. But what can we…  

This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center. In NLP there is a model called Eye Accessing Cues. The developers of NLP noticed that when you ask a person to recall something visual, usually their…  

Living a life tainted by regret is a burden carried by far too many. Immersed in the circumstances of the past, you are blind to hope and chained to thoughts of how things might have been. If now is the…  

I don’t know about you, but I love Disneyland. I honestly feel like nothing else matters when I’m there. It’s a great place to escape reality and get caught up in the magic of a pretend world. From the fake…  

This is a guest post by iNLP Student Kelli Cooper There is always a reason why we do the things we do and want the things we want. Sometimes though, as we all know, those reasons are not enough to…  

Have you ever been stung by unjust criticism? It can really get under your skin. Worse, if you can’t let it go, it eats away at you over time, for months or years in some cases. A single, unfortunate event…  

If we had perfect foreknowledge of the future, there would be no such thing as uncertainty. However, we do not have perfect foreknowledge and never will. Therefore, uncertainty and anxiety play a major role in life. How can you develop…  

This is a guest post by iNLP student Kelli Cooper. None of us are perfect, no major revelations there. We know this. But, I think on some level, many of us who seriously take on the path of personal development…  

Learning the following six stages of growth and development, synthesized from Maslow and Kohlberg, will help you understand your deeper developmental needs and what to do when. Before reading about the adult stages of growth and development, consider the following…  

The following is a guest post by iNLP Student Kelli Cooper. In the intro module to the NLP training at iNLP Center, Mike brought up an excellent point that I think can be applied to all aspects of life –something…  

Ever feel like life is passing you by as if you were relegated to the sidelines while everyone else is having the time of their lives? If you are feeling this way, read on! This is just what the doctor…  

Personal development’s seven deadly sins are especially dangerous because when you are the sinner, you may not see it. In such a state of sin against your own growth, you often blind yourself to the truth of what you are…  

I can’t believe how stupid I am. As if anyone would really want to read this article. What could I possibly have to say? I’m just not good enough. Sound familiar? You know what negative self-talk is, but do you…  

This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center. The amount of new technology that has come about in the past 30 years is astounding. As a result, our lives have changed dramatically. Yet millions of…  

This article is a follow up to part one, The Invisible Force that Determines your Happiness and Success, which discussed personal narratives or the stories we rehearse about how our life has unfolded. Imagine planning a romantic evening with your…  

Most people don’t realize that, resting deep within their psyche, a personal narrative is quietly determining how they respond to the world, how they make decisions and how successful they will become. How does a metaphor do all that? Amazingly,…  

We usually refer to the physical body when we talk about cleansing and detoxification, but emotional cleansing yields results for the mind and emotions that are just as impressive as any good physical detox. An emotional cleanse isn’t necessarily easy,…  

All else being equal, you have no reason to be self-critical. Your brain and body are inherently self-protective. You value your life and want good things for yourself and those around you. Otherwise, you would make absolutely zero effort to…  

Transcript from Mental Health Exposed – Air Date 4-18-12 I want to introduce another element to this concept and that is the element of requirements. Personal requirements are related to what Guy Finley called our ambition. The concept of personal…  

Have you ever felt the frustration of dealing with someone who is totally confused? Well, you don’t have to get frustrated. Just ‘steal’ their confusion with this friendly NLP mind trick. Confusion and other states are transferable. Much like a…  

We all know the feeling that comes with being criticized or verbally attacked. The initial response of shock, fear and anger seem to be hardwired. Defensiveness flows so easily from these states. Once these emotions get a grip on you,…  

I stood in front of my father, man to man, and demanded an apology. His long absence and lack of interest during my formative years had burned within me a resentment that wouldn’t quit. My therapist suggested that I confront…  

We all want to believe we are tough to fool. The problem is, even if you are not so gullible, your brain still works a certain way, making associations that create vulnerability to being easily fooled, or fooling yourself. It…  

Do you think you are too smart to fall for a scam? Think again. All over the web, self-proclaimed gurus are telling you lie after blatant lie in order to get your money and pump their ego. Chances are you…  

You earned a Will Point. WooHoo! You’re almost done! Make sure to try and complete both behaviors to earn both points each day. Keep going and get more tomorrow! Share this with your friends so they can build their Willpower,…  

What if most moments in your life were filled with exactly what you wanted? For far too many people, this feels like an impossible dream. Why? Because they have not learned to be thoroughly intentional. Becoming intentional about most things…  

I live in a blended family and it is one wild ride. At first, of course, everyone was excited about living together and then reality set in. When life in a blended family is challenging, what makes it so? My…  

Neurolinguistic Programming has something very valuable to offer those in search of personal and professional development. Unfortunately, the field of NLP has been inundated with slicks and con artists who have led many astray with promises of “instant rapport” and…  

From fat to fit using Zen Motivation to lose weight. Lawrence considered himself an average American, a few pounds (70, to be exact) overweight, but fitting right in with his peers, for the most part. Who doesn’t throw back a…  

If you know a few secrets and practice a little, you can master some pretty slick card tricks. Before long you will be dazzling onlookers with your expertise and finesse, controlling the outcome of a series of events that no…  

Should you Learn NLP? It’s a fair question. It was never meant for everyone to learn NLP. Is it for you? Here are some guidelines to help you sort it out. Read on with an open mind. This may save…  

There are lots of NLP practitioner courses to choose from these days. It can be confusing to sort out each type and decide which one is right for you. Deciding whom to trust or which program will give you the…  

Generalizing: The NLP Meta Model could be called “The Gift That Leaves A Mess In Its Wake” Without the instinctual ability to generalize, humans wouldn’t get very far. Think about it. When you’re growing up and learning what things are…  

More than you can imagine. Beneath every lifestyle related medical condition is a core problem: chronic stress. Unhealthy stress is so serious that it can literally take your life, and always does if allowed to persist. The Mayo Clinic has…  

Since 1994 I have been traveling to Tokyo, Japan to teach NLP for a wonderful organization called Team Iryo or Team Medicine. Founded by Kazuhiko Umemoto, Team Medicine has been a pioneer in continuing education for Japanese professionals and lay…  

Magic: Any extraordinary or mystical influence, charm, power, etc. that enables human control of supernatural agencies or the forces of nature. The Slicks of NLP dance their way into your psyche and into your pocketbook with the lure of magic,…  

I’m embarrassed. I’ve been learning and teaching NLP since 1992 and NEVER before have I seen such marketing hype out there. The way NLP is promoted these days, you’d think people were standing in front of the snake oil wagon…  

No secret techniques. No magic formulas. In case you were wondering, this is all marketing hype. Anyone who promotes NLP by promising access to the inner chamber of the NLP sanctuary that is usually reserved for the top trainers is,…