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(December 1, 2018) This week, iNLP Center completed it’s 10th semiannual NLP Trainer’s Training Certification course. We also finished up the first-ever Inner Dynamics Practitioner Certification. Congratulations to all graduates in both of these courses! Inner Dynamics Inner Dynamics is…   Read More Now

(November 2018) Author and world-renown expert in therapeutic journaling, Mari McCarthy, recently joined Mike Bundrant of the iNLP Center for a webinar on therapeutic journaling. Every week, the iNLP Center offers free instructional webinars to enrolled students. Every two months, we…   Read More Now

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Welcome to the Enlighten Me Survey Rejection Attraction Quiz! This quiz assesses how prone you are to rejection. Many of us feel chronic low self-esteem and some form of rejection on a regular basis. Further, we subconsciously set ourselves up…   Read More Now

Note: This page is a work in progress. As our understanding of the Rejection Attachment develops, the information here will be updated. The information below is not intended to diagnose or treat any mental health condition and is to be…   Read More Now

Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor, practicing personal coach, co-founder of the iNLP Center, co-author of the AHA Solution  and author of Your Achilles Eel. Negative self-talk is one of the most popular forms of self-torture. To one…   Read More Now

Today Hope and I decided to something cool and different. We thought you’d enjoying seeing some classic NLP demonstrated. So, we made an “action video” for you. In this new video, I work as a classic NLP practitioner with Hope,…   Read More Now

Mike Bundrant is a retired mental health counselor, personal coach and blogger for some of the top health, mental health and personal development websites in the world. You’re at midlife – and you’ve got challenges. You’re busy making a living,…   Read More Now

Arguing is a normal part of any close relationship, right? Yet, when you consider the delusions that lead to arguments and the proven detriment to your health, you may begin to reconsider just how “normal” all those arguments really are….   Read More Now

This is a VERY short video with a super effective technique for handing your inner critic. The technique is RARE, so you’ve most likely NEVER heard of it before. Better yet: It works! If you like this video, you’ll LOVE…   Read More Now

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If you’re like me, you have a few things in life that you love to do and do very well. You also have heartfelt obligations toward others and passions that you need to say YES to. Then there all the…   Read More Now

Want to know how to Create Rapport, Connection and Trust? We all want these in our personal and professional relationships. Yet, how often do we intentionally set out to create them? And if we did set such a conscious intention,…   Read More Now

Great leaders possess a strong sense of personal responsibility for their lives, their actions, and their word. You cannot lead anyone (much less yourself) when you hate your life. For most of us, hating life is a victim stance with which…   Read More Now

If the relationship between a counselor and client is not strong, if rapport is not established, effective counseling is very unlikely to occur. To that end, NLP offers several strategies. To build natural rapport with clients more quickly, follow the…   Read More Now

What would happen in your life if you were more assertive when you need to be? For most people who lack assertiveness, miracles would happen. You’d be able to speak up and get what you need from others. You’d be…   Read More Now

In NLP, the term “state” refers to how you experience yourself and the world at any given moment in time. Your state changes constantly – food, oxygen, internal and external stimuli play a role. In NLP jargon, a psychological state…   Read More Now

If you are a hard working woman who gives and gives, yet still feels less than, you are not alone. The research summarized below describes women with “low self-esteem” who work extra hard to maintain their marriages because they don’t…   Read More Now

Erin Gruwell interview conducted by Mike Bundrant. Orriginally published in Healthy Times Newspaper. I thought it was just another movie involving tough kids and a dedicated teacher.  Perhaps I am jaded, but it wasn’t on the top of my list…   Read More Now

Watch out, men. Here it comes. Some credible scientists now claim that it is YOUR attitude that makes or breaks your marriage. Could it be true? First, let’s look at the evidence. Then, we can draw some fair conclusions and…   Read More Now

A lot of us parents think we need to project an image of perfection to our kids. No, we aren’t struggling. No, we don’t argue with our spouse. And, of course, we aren’t filled with anxiety! Everything is fine. We…   Read More Now

Are you in a relationship with an impossible person? You probably didn’t intend for it to turn out this way. At the same time, impossible relationships don’t “just happen.” It actually takes two people. It’s a conundrum. You’re don’t participate…   Read More Now

Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind. Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923. He continued: Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze, but they…   Read More Now

Ever wondered how how simple thoughts affect your body? Have you put off learning how to control your thoughts? Recent research shows how dramatically even the simplest thoughts affect the body. Most people are aware of the fact that pupil…   Read More Now

Guest Post By Christopher Butler Spawning from the likes of spiritual sages like Louise Hay, Esther Hicks, and Doreen Virtue, affirmations have become a part of mainstream culture. Repeat your intention and it will magically come to pass; this is…   Read More Now

Do you sometimes think you hate your husband? Can you become filled with resentment and bitterness when he walks into the room? When he touches you, do you cringe? Do you daydream of a life that is far different than…   Read More Now

You don’t have to be single to wonder whether or not you are ready for a relationship. In fact, millions of people who aren’t really ready find themselves in the middle of relationships that are going.badly. Regardless of your status,…   Read More Now

Here’s what some of our students have said about our Cooling the Fire program: Canale D.: I love the concept of this tool. I have always been a retaliator when attacked because i thought i was defending myself but this…   Read More Now

Carrie Ann Inaba’s Top Six Health Tips We’ve seen Carrie Ann Inaba as the no-nonsense judge on ABC’s hit Dancing with the Stars. It is also inspiring to learn that Carrie Ann Inaba is very well educated in matters related…   Read More Now

I used to tell Mike that it felt as if we were ping-ponging against each other. I would do something that would cause him to react that would in turn cause me to react, and so on and so on,…   Read More Now

“That all started in my 30’s,” Jennifer Aniston admits her insecurities began during her relationship to Brad Pitt. Jennifer Aniston went through her awkward stage when she was married to Brad Pitt. Instead of experiencing insecurities when she was younger…   Read More Now

People usually assume that a mother’s mood affects her child. Now, scientific evidence links the two in surprising ways. A study published in the Journal of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics showed a connection between maternal anxiety and depression and problem…   Read More Now

At 7:15 AM, Martin opens his eyes and makes the same vow he made yesterday: Today, I am going to eat a clean diet. And when I get off work, I am going straight to the gym. At 7 AM…   Read More Now

From remembering that first kiss to where you put your glasses, memories play a vital role in the human experience and existence. It’s always been assumed that those with sharper memory have an easier time and don’t need to work…   Read More Now

In NLP, we model ourselves after people who have already achieved what we want. If you want to lose weight, go to someone who lost weight successfully and learn what they did. If you want to overcome a habit, find…   Read More Now

Are there parts of yourself that you hate? For some, these are physical parts. You hate your nose, your lips, your thighs, belly or ankles because you believe they are so ugly. For others, a psychological part is ruining things….   Read More Now

A bad relationship is a living hell, yet millions of people stay in them – sometimes for life. Why? There are reasons. I recently set out to compare notes with my colleague, Jake Eagle of Reology.org. Jake is an extremely…   Read More Now

Is your life what you always thought it would be? In many ways, this is a trick question. Nobody has the capacity to anticipate all the twists and turns life has to offer. Young people don’t have the life experience…   Read More Now

If you’re feeling chronically bad in some area of your life, chances are you are doing something to cause the stress in a way you’ve yet to understand. That’s right – you. Even if your husband/wife/boss/enemy does have something to…   Read More Now

One day, my wife Hope was a hard working home school mom without a personal goal. Ninety days later, she was standing on stage in front of 3000 screaming fans. Cameras were flashing as she beamed with pride, a first…   Read More Now

Are you tired of having unfulfilled relationships, one right after another, even though you thought you were doing everything right? Learn about the… Breakthrough Philosophy Proven to Create Fulfilling Romantic Relationships That Stand the Test of Time “Relationships are difficult.”…   Read More Now

Marriage is a boon to millions of well-adjusted couples who savor the intimacy and emotional safety that only a committed relationship can offer. Unhappy marriage, however, is a modern plague that is literally taking lives. And there is research to…   Read More Now

Are you wishing your spouse or significant other treated you with more kindness, love and respect? If so, I have good news and bad news: 1. The good:  I have formula that absolutely works when there is any potential for…   Read More Now

Do you find yourself feeling ashamed even when you’ve done nothing wrong? Those of us with shame issues know all too well the rush of warm blood to the neck and face that makes us want to run and hide….   Read More Now

You can change your entire life from the inside out. You can buck all the odds and make your life exactly what it has been crying out to become. You can do it. The results are for real and the…   Read More Now

You want your spouse, partners or friends to love you more, but are you up for it? If you’re like me, you tend to resist when others try to intervene in your life. This resistance is resistance to being loved….   Read More Now

Can you say it? I am emotionally attached to the negativity in my past. That attachment to interferes with my present-day life as an adult. I remember entering therapy for the first time 25 years ago. I interviewed several therapists…   Read More Now

Are you as independent as you’d like to be? Over the years I have personally asked hundreds of clients this very question. According to my estimation, 90% respond in the negative. Here’s how loss of perceived independence happens in so…   Read More Now

It’s in the past. Forget it and move on! This is typical advice from a thousand armchair psychologists. It is also common to hear this from professional counselors and coaches. Little do these well-intended folks know that this is not…   Read More Now

Here’s the undeniable truth: Individuality is the most valued and most feared gift a person can possess. Everyone has the gift of individuality. Most people avoid it as if it were poison. Confidence and comfort with individuality is rare. This…   Read More Now

Change. That’s the name of the game in the personal development world. If you are not selling change, people aren’t interested. This, of course, inspires personal development gurus to promise change when they have no business doing so. People want…   Read More Now

The top ten stressful events listed on the original Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory included: death of a spouse, divorce, marital separation, jail term, death of a close relative, injury or illness, marriage, loss of job, marriage reconciliation and retirement. As…   Read More Now

Would you voluntarily hop into a cage with an angry gorilla then wonder how you got stuck with the beast? Dang gorilla is about to kill me! Why should I have to put up with this? You don’t. You put…   Read More Now

Every time I say what I need, it turns into an argument. So, I just give up, suck it up and go on feeling deprived and resentful. It’s no use speaking up because everyone is too busy to care. I…   Read More Now

Kenrick Cleveland, Thanks to an interested reader who sent me the mp3, I was able to listen to your intro webinar, The Dark Side of Covert Hypnosis – all 2+ hours of it. Now, I can offer a more informed…   Read More Now

Someone comes to you for helping and guidance in reaching goal Here’s the goal: I want the weather to remain fair and sunny for the next week. No clouds or rain! I am just sick and tired of bad weather….   Read More Now

A friend sent me a link a few days ago to the latest and greatest NLP and hypnosis scam. Now, I am used to hype in the NLP world, which is why our motto at the iNLP Center is NLP…   Read More Now

We all have it – that one monstrous personal issue that gets the best of us time and again. Even with education and therapy, the monster rages on. Often, we keep this mother of all problems a secret, protecting it…   Read More Now

I am thrilled to present this guest post by author Guy Finley. Guy’s work has been translated into 20 languages and has sold more than a million copies worldwide. It is an honor to have him as our special guest….   Read More Now

It’s a question that can quietly guide your life. Why am I so unhappy? And it’s a fair question. There are definite reasons why you are unhappy, but that does not mean you understand them. Most us of keep those…   Read More Now

As you obsess over your list of wants in life, don’t forget to desire the one thing that makes everything else on the list legitimate. In fact, if you don’t want this, all the other goals on your list will…   Read More Now

The hunt for information on how to change your life is always in full steam, but there may be a more important question. What makes the process of change fulfilling? This is a key to sticking with it. If you…   Read More Now

Finding happiness and self-acceptance does not need to be a mysterious process. Finding happiness can be a conscious and deliberate undertaking. To seek and find happiness on purpose, you need a process. This is what we are up to in…   Read More Now

A personal development plan is a very personal guide toward where you want to be in life. Your personal development plan plays a critical role in your individual growth. Do you have one? If not, then this article will serve…   Read More Now

Your mind inflicts suffering like no other person can. Other people can hurt you, but only your mind can take that hurt, magnify it, extend it over time, give you bad dreams, stress you into oblivion and drag you through…   Read More Now

Research now shows that the way you handle minor daily stressors – those little annoyances – has a tremendous impact on your long-term health. Human nature is to justify the nasty little moods, childish reactions and general grumpiness because “life…   Read More Now

Read to find out how the NLP Decision Making Strategy can help you make the right choice every time… I’ll tell you a fact about me and buying cars. I’m really bad at it. I get caught up in the…   Read More Now

A lot of people think they have a little devil on one shoulder and a little angel on the other. In reality, they have a little devil on one shoulder and a little devil disguised as an angel on the…   Read More Now

Do you wish you had better ways of getting unstuck? A lot of us subconsciously hold to the misconception that we should never be stuck in the first place. So, when we inevitably get stuck with a low mood, lack…   Read More Now

Life is a series of wrong turns…that’s a pretty good metaphor for a lot of us. The way we see life is pretty powerful in determining the way we live life. If I tell myself that life is a struggle,…   Read More Now

The iNLP Center AHA Solution personal development program has been out for one month now. Based on the most finished videos, we can now tell which styles of self-sabotage are the most common. We’ve had a little bet going as…   Read More Now

Does self-awareness really lead to health and healing? Self-awareness is touted as a powerful form of healing, yet it often does nothing for us. Being aware that you have a problem doesn’t mean the problem is going to magically vanish,…   Read More Now

We all want to live happy, fulfilled lives. Sometimes, however, it seems like we’ve become experts at avoiding happiness. If you are missing out on your share of happiness, you may have unconscious beliefs that make it impossible to experience…   Read More Now

There’s lots of talk these days about whether NLP is pseudoscience. Claims have been made. So-called researchers are sneering at the “pseudoscience of NLP.” NLP trainers are up in arms. The debate is very real, as it affects the lives…   Read More Now

You might not believe the extreme measures I took to win my older brother’s approval. They all failed. When I started businesses that succeeded against the odds, he shrugged his shoulders. When I took up expensive hobbies (that I suck…   Read More Now

How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved? Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe we actually…   Read More Now

Do you wish you were a more positive person? Most people do. In fact, inner negativity is a universal problem. Chronic negativity can smother the naturally positive person that you are, deep down. The entire world is suffering with this…   Read More Now

Weak emotional boundaries are amongst the most confusing of psychological issues because it is very difficult to self-diagnose weak boundaries. Because the emotional boundaries (rules, expectations, protocol) that set the stage for our relationships are initially formed when we are…   Read More Now

Are you a control freak? Or do you live with a control freak? This article will prove that a control freak is not at all what she (or he) seems. With control freaks, what you see is NOT what you…   Read More Now

If someone offered you a simple rule that guaranteed a super high level of inner peace, would you follow it? I hope so, because no matter how many self-help techniques you use, breaking this one rule will still destroy your…   Read More Now

Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain? Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of it. Why…   Read More Now

It’s February 10th, four days before Valentine’s Day. Hope and I are meeting with Michael Grinder to plan our next online training module. Michael is on our training team delivering NLP training to our Japanese students. This training had nothing…   Read More Now

I don’t usually come out like this, but on days like today I am embarrassed to call myself an NLP trainer. If the foundational skills NLP has to offer weren’t unique, I’d leave the field. Alas, we must put up…   Read More Now

How does this happen? One day you were in love, excited to spend each moment together. Now, you’re feeling blah and just moving through life pretty much independently. Are you just so used to each other that you don’t notice…   Read More Now

This article is likely to provoke the following defenses: Anger, disbelief, mirth, shame, confusion, blame, fear, intellectual scorn, emotional paralysis, self-criticism, other criticism, a numb feeling and other means of avoiding the truth. Read on with caution, and realize we’re…   Read More Now

For more than 20 years I asked some of the best minds and most successful people in the world a simple question. The answers varied, but none of them were satisfying. The most common answers: I don’t know. If we…   Read More Now

Most people have a secret buried so deep that they forget all about it, but that doesn’t make it less real. So many of us lock this difficult truth away, often taking it to the grave without ever recognizing it,…   Read More Now

Interviewing Carl Lewis as publisher of Healthy Times was a privilege I will always remember. Here is the original article. Please enjoy! Carl Lewis’ lifetime accomplishments have led to numerous accolades, including being voted “Sportsman of the Century” by the…   Read More Now

Legendary coach John Wooden (1910-2010) has passed on, but I will never forget my 2006 interview with him. He was all but done granting interviews by then, but because I wanted to speak to him about his children’s book, Inch…   Read More Now

This article is by Mike and Hope Bundrant, although it is written with a singular voice. You can guess who is talking and when! Many of us, including myself, suffer with boughts of low self-esteem. I can be going all…   Read More Now

According to research, the average American lies 11 times a week. This surprising finding inspired other researchers to establish a connection between lying and health. They found one. Officially, medical research suggests that telling “fewer” lies increases your physical health….   Read More Now

An iNLP life coaching student recently asked if she needed to do anything to prepare a strategy session with me. After I replied to her email, I realized that I had just discovered the simplest success formula ever! I asked…   Read More Now

The following is a guest post by 7-time world champion skydiver and author of the book Above All Else, Dan Brodsky-Chenfeld. It became obvious that the fight was going to happen. I was about to get beat up and it…   Read More Now

Would you like to have a few ways to gain inner peace on the spot no matter what the circumstance? If so, you will find 91 things in the following list that you can do, right now, to create inner…   Read More Now

It can be incredibly frustrating dealing with family members who have serious problems. Because we love them so much, it is hard to see them behaving in hurtful ways that make every one around them miserable. But what can we…   Read More Now

This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center. In NLP there is a model called Eye Accessing Cues. The developers of NLP noticed that when you ask a person to recall something visual, usually their…   Read More Now

Living a life tainted by regret is a burden carried by far too many. Immersed in the circumstances of the past, you are blind to hope and chained to thoughts of how things might have been. If now is the…   Read More Now

This is a guest post by iNLP Student Kelli Cooper There is always a reason why we do the things we do and want the things we want. Sometimes though, as we all know, those reasons are not enough to…   Read More Now

If we had perfect foreknowledge of the future, there would be no such thing as uncertainty. However, we do not have perfect foreknowledge and never will. Therefore, uncertainty and anxiety play a major role in life. How can you develop…   Read More Now

This is a guest post by iNLP student Kelli Cooper. None of us are perfect, no major revelations there. We know this. But, I think on some level, many of us who seriously take on the path of personal development…   Read More Now

Learning the following six stages of growth and development, synthesized from Maslow and Kohlberg, will help you understand your deeper developmental needs and what to do when. Before reading about the adult stages of growth and development, consider the following…   Read More Now

Ever feel like life is passing you by as if you were relegated to the sidelines while everyone else is having the time of their lives? If you are feeling this way, read on! This is just what the doctor…   Read More Now

I can’t believe how stupid I am. As if anyone would really want to read this article. What could I possibly have to say? I’m just not good enough. Sound familiar? You know what negative self-talk is, but do you…   Read More Now

This article is a follow up to part one, The Invisible Force that Determines your Happiness and Success, which discussed personal narratives or the stories we rehearse about how our life has unfolded. Imagine planning a romantic evening with your…   Read More Now

Most people don’t realize that, resting deep within their psyche, a personal narrative is quietly determining how they respond to the world, how they make decisions and how successful they will become. How does a metaphor do all that? Amazingly,…   Read More Now

We usually refer to the physical body when we talk about cleansing and detoxification, but emotional cleansing yields results for the mind and emotions that are just as impressive as any good physical detox. An emotional cleanse isn’t necessarily easy,…   Read More Now

All else being equal, you have no reason to be self-critical. Your brain and body are inherently self-protective. You value your life and want good things for yourself and those around you. Otherwise, you would make absolutely zero effort to…   Read More Now

We all know the feeling that comes with being criticized or verbally attacked. The initial response of shock, fear and anger seem to be hardwired. Defensiveness flows so easily from these states. Once these emotions get a grip on you,…   Read More Now

Do you think you are too smart to fall for a scam? Think again. All over the web, self-proclaimed gurus are telling you lie after blatant lie in order to get your money and pump their ego. Chances are you…   Read More Now

The NLP Meta Model is a godsend for managing vague, ambiguous communication. Without the instinctual ability to generalize, humans wouldn’t get very far. Think about it. When you’re growing up and learning what things are and how they work, you…   Read More Now