Your thoughts are separate from the outside world, right? I’ve always assumed this to be the case, although I cannot tell you why I’ve assumed it.At any rate, it’s very interesting that a recent study conducted by researchers …
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Sex addiction is prevalent. The National Council on Sexual Addiction Compulsivity has suggested that up to 8% of Americans suffer from sex addiction. This includes up to 24 million people. Viable treatment options need to be promoted and …
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If you’re in a rut of feeling bad, the prospect of feeling great much of the time might be intimidating. So intimidating, in fact, that you might very well avoid positive feelings altogether. One study published in Journal …
Stop Rejecting Opportunity to Feel Good: 5 Steps to Embrace Your Best Self Read More »
What I learned from studying NLP Anchored States in the NLP Practitioner Training at the iNLP Center: Our daily lives are filled with triggers that cause automatic responses, whether it be a physiological, emotional state, or behavior. These …
Many issues we face would make much more sense if we considered them self-punishment. At least we’d be starting from a practical place. Instead, most of us try solve problems by complaining. Then we play an endless, neurotic …
NLP tools can get you unstuck quickly and effectively. Specifically, use NLP tools to change your state when you need to. In NLP, “state” refers to a person’s subjective experience of self and the world at any point …
To learn how to be happy consistently, at some point in life all of us need realize one key thing: The obstacles to happiness are on the inside, not the outside. The big question for those learning how …
How to Be Happy: The One Gigantic Happiness Realization and a 5-Step Process to Apply It Read More »
Ever wondered if talking to a coach produces measurable results? Recent research among a very challenged population suggests that coaching is not only viable, but a necessary step to resolve challenging physical or emotional issues. In the research …
Does Mental Wellness Coaching Work? Check this Study… Read More »
Do you know, or do people say you’re a narcissist? Can a personality disorder as extensive as narcissism be diagnosed with a single question? In the case of narcissism, the answer is yes. Researchers have published an article …
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Welcome to the Enlighten Me Survey Rejection Attraction Quiz! This quiz assesses how prone you are to rejection. Many of us feel chronic low self-esteem and some form of rejection on a regular basis. Further, we subconsciously set …
Arguing is a normal part of any close relationship, right? Yet, when you consider the delusions that lead to arguments and the proven detriment to your health, you may begin to reconsider just how “normal” all those arguments …
Three Delusions that Lead to Chronic Arguing, High Stress and Early Death Read More »
This is a VERY short video with a super effective technique for handing your inner critic. The technique is RARE, so you’ve most likely NEVER heard of it before. Better yet: It works! If you like this video, …
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Want to know how to Create Rapport, Connection and Trust? We all want these in our personal and professional relationships. Yet, how often do we intentionally set out to create them? And if we did set such a …
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Great leaders possess a strong sense of personal responsibility for their lives, their actions, and their word. You cannot lead anyone (much less yourself) when you hate your life. For most of us, hating life is a victim stance …
If the relationship between a counselor and client is not strong, if rapport is not established, effective counseling is very unlikely to occur. To that end, NLP offers several strategies. To build natural rapport with clients more quickly, …
Counselors: How to Build Natural Rapport with NLP Read More »
What would happen in your life if you were more assertive when you need to be? For most people who lack assertiveness, miracles would happen. You’d be able to speak up and get what you need from others. …
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Erin Gruwell interview conducted by Mike Bundrant. Orriginally published in Healthy Times Newspaper. I thought it was just another movie involving tough kids and a dedicated teacher. Perhaps I am jaded, but it wasn’t on the top of …
Freedom Writers: An Exclusive Interview with Erin Gruwell Read More »
Watch out, men. Here it comes. Some credible scientists now claim that it is YOUR attitude that makes or breaks your marriage. Could it be true? First, let’s look at the evidence. Then, we can draw some fair …
Research: Husband’s Attitude is the Key to a Happy Marriage Read More »
Some simple things seem impossible to change. And some people seem impossible! Are you in a relationship with an impossible person? You probably didn’t intend for it to turn out this way. At the same time, impossible relationships …
Top 6 Relationship Arguments Offered by Impossible People (and what to do about them) Read More »
Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind. Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923. He continued: Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze, …
6 Ways Remaining Silent Creates Pain, Wrongdoing and Despair Read More »
Guest Post By Christopher Butler Spawning from the likes of spiritual sages like Louise Hay, Esther Hicks, and Doreen Virtue, affirmations have become a part of mainstream culture. Repeat your intention and it will magically come to pass; …
Why Affirmations Don’t Come True (and how to make them work) Read More »
Here’s what some of our students have said about our Cooling the Fire program: Canale D.: I love the concept of this tool. I have always been a retaliator when attacked because i thought i was defending myself …
I used to tell Mike that it felt as if we were ping-ponging against each other in our relationship. I would do something that would cause him to react that would, in turn, cause me to react, and …
Subconscious questions can play a large part in how you are feeling in your life. If you’re feeling chronically bad in some area of your life, chances are you are doing something to cause the stress in a …
How Subconscious Questions Can Shape Our Lives for the Worst Read More »
Marriage is a boon to millions of well-adjusted couples who savor the intimacy and emotional safety that only a committed relationship can offer. Unhappy marriage, however, is a modern plague that is literally taking lives. And there is …
When it’s Bad, this Common Relationship Slowly Kills You Read More »
Are you wishing your spouse or significant other treated you with more kindness, love and respect? If so, I have good news and bad news: 1. The good: I have formula that absolutely works when there is any …
How to Help your Spouse Be Kind to You: The No-Fail Formula Read More »
Do you find yourself feeling ashamed even when you’ve done nothing wrong? Those of us with shame issues know all too well the rush of warm blood to the neck and face that makes us want to run …
How to Overcome a Deep Sense of Shame: the Essential FAQ and To-Do List Read More »
It’s in the past. Forget it and move on! This is typical advice from a thousand armchair psychologists. It is also common to hear this from professional counselors and coaches. Little do these well-intended folks know that this …
How to Get Out of the Shadow of a Negative Past – The Essential FAQ Read More »
Kenrick Cleveland, Thanks to an interested reader who sent me the mp3, I was able to listen to your intro webinar, The Dark Side of Covert Hypnosis – all 2+ hours of it. Now, I can offer a …
We all have it – that one monstrous personal issue that gets the best of us time and again. Even with education and therapy, the monster rages on. Often, we keep this mother of all problems a secret, …
How to Solve your Worst Problem: My Five Best Tips Read More »
It’s a question that can quietly guide your life. Why am I so unhappy? And it’s a fair question. There are definite reasons why you are unhappy, but that does not mean you understand them. Most us of …
Your mind inflicts self torturing and suffering like no other person can. Other people can hurt you, but only your mind can take that hurt, magnify it, extend it over time, give you bad dreams, stress you into …
Self Torturing : The Number 1 Reason Why Your Mind Acts Like a Personal Torture Chamber Read More »
Read to find out how the NLP Decision Making Strategy can help you make the right choice every time… I’ll tell you a fact about me and buying cars. I’m really bad at it. I get caught up …
How to Make Better Decisions using the NLP Decision Making Strategy Read More »
Do you wish you had better ways of getting unstuck? A lot of us subconsciously hold to the misconception that we should never be stuck in the first place. So, when we inevitably break our routine or get …
Life is a series of wrong turns…that’s a pretty good metaphor for a lot of us. The way we see life is pretty powerful in determining the way we live life. If I tell myself that life is …
The iNLP Center AHA Solution self-sabotage program breaks psychological attachments into twelve types and helps you understand your type, or types, and how to end the cycle. Because this is an online self-sabotage program, we’ve wondered which psychological …
iNLP Center’s AHA Solution Self-Sabotage Program: Most Common Attachment Type Results Read More »
We all want to live happy lives. Sometimes, however, it seems like we’ve become experts at avoiding happiness. If you are missing out on your share of happiness, you may have unconscious beliefs that make it impossible to …
You might not believe the extreme measures I took to win my older brother’s approval. They all failed. When I started businesses that succeeded against the odds, he shrugged his shoulders. When I took up expensive hobbies (that …
How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved? Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe …
Turning Your Frog Back into a Prince (or princess) Read More »
Do you wish you knew how to be more positive? Do you wish you were a more positive person in general? Do you meet positive people and wonder why they aren’t more negative? Inner negativity is a universal …
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Weak emotional boundaries are amongst the most confusing of psychological issues because it is very difficult to self-diagnose weak boundaries. Because the emotional boundaries (rules, expectations, protocol) that set the stage for our relationships are initially formed when …
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Many people are surprised to learn that their favorite coping mechanism for handling emotional pain actually causes more problems than it solves. Let’s look at four solid steps to effectively dealing with emotional pain and five reactions that …
5 Ways you Trick yourself into Prolonging Emotional Pain Read More »
Are you a control freak? Or do you live with a control freak? This article will prove that a control freak is not at all what she (or he) seems. With control freaks, what you see is NOT …
Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain? Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of …
These 7 Facts about the Human Psyche Lead You Straight into the Matrix Read More »
It’s February 10th, four days before Valentine’s Day. Hope and I are meeting with Michael Grinder to plan our next online training module. Michael is on our training team delivering NLP training to our Japanese students. This training …
Love Languages of NLP – Using VAK to Increase Awareness Read More »
This article is likely to provoke the following defenses: Anger, disbelief, mirth, shame, confusion, blame, fear, intellectual scorn, emotional paralysis, self-criticism, other criticism, a numb feeling and other means of avoiding the truth. Read on with caution, and …
If Your Unconscious Mind Could Speak, Here Is What It Would Say Read More »
Most people have a secret buried so deep that they forget all about it, but that doesn’t make it less real. So many of us lock this difficult truth away, often taking it to the grave without ever …
Interviewing Carl Lewis as publisher of Healthy Times was a privilege I will always remember. Here is the original article. Please enjoy! Carl Lewis’ lifetime accomplishments have led to numerous accolades, including being voted “Sportsman of the Century” …
Legendary coach John Wooden (1910-2010) has passed on, but I will never forget my 2006 interview with him. He was all but done granting interviews by then, but because I wanted to speak to him about his children’s …
Are you struggling to create a behavioral change or a develop a new habit? Fewer things are more frustrating than failing to make changes that appear to be so simple. It’s as if you were convinced you could …
Behavioral Change: Why Simple Behaviors Seem Impossible To Change Read More »