What would happen in your life if you were more assertive when you need to be? For most people who lack assertiveness, miracles would happen. You’d be able to speak up and get what you need from others. […]
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Watch out, men. Here it comes. Some credible scientists now claim that it is YOUR attitude that makes or breaks your marriage. Could it be true? First, let’s look at the evidence. Then, we can draw some fair
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Some simple things seem impossible to change. And some people seem impossible! Are you in a relationship with an impossible person? You probably didn’t intend for it to turn out this way. At the same time, impossible relationships
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Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind. Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923. He continued: Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze,
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Guest Post By Christopher Butler Spawning from the likes of spiritual sages like Louise Hay, Esther Hicks, and Doreen Virtue, affirmations have become a part of mainstream culture. Repeat your intention and it will magically come to pass;
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Here’s what some of our students have said about our Cooling the Fire program: Canale D.: I love the concept of this tool. I have always been a retaliator when attacked because i thought i was defending myself
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Subconscious questions can play a large part in how you are feeling in your life. If you’re feeling chronically bad in some area of your life, chances are you are doing something to cause the stress in a
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Marriage is a boon to millions of well-adjusted couples who savor the intimacy and emotional safety that only a committed relationship can offer. Unhappy marriage, however, is a modern plague that is literally taking lives. And there is
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Are you wishing your spouse or significant other treated you with more kindness, love and respect? If so, I have good news and bad news: 1. The good:Â I have formula that absolutely works when there is any
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Do you find yourself feeling ashamed even when you’ve done nothing wrong? Those of us with shame issues know all too well the rush of warm blood to the neck and face that makes us want to run
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It’s in the past. Forget it and move on! This is typical advice from a thousand armchair psychologists. It is also common to hear this from professional counselors and coaches. Little do these well-intended folks know that this
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Kenrick Cleveland, Thanks to an interested reader who sent me the mp3, I was able to listen to your intro webinar, The Dark Side of Covert Hypnosis – all 2+ hours of it. Now, I can offer a
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We all have it – that one monstrous personal issue that gets the best of us time and again. Even with education and therapy, the monster rages on. Often, we keep this mother of all problems a secret,
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It’s a question that can quietly guide your life. Why am I so unhappy? And it’s a fair question. There are definite reasons why you are unhappy, but that does not mean you understand them. Most us of
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Your mind inflicts self torturing and suffering like no other person can. Other people can hurt you, but only your mind can take that hurt, magnify it, extend it over time, give you bad dreams, stress you into
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Read to find out how the NLP Decision Making Strategy can help you make the right choice every time… I’ll tell you a fact about me and buying cars. I’m really bad at it. I get caught up
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Do you wish you had better ways of getting unstuck? A lot of us subconsciously hold to the misconception that we should never be stuck in the first place. So, when we inevitably break our routine or get
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Life is a series of wrong turns…that’s a pretty good metaphor for a lot of us. The way we see life is pretty powerful in determining the way we live life. If I tell myself that life is
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The iNLP Center AHA Solution self-sabotage program breaks psychological attachments into twelve types and helps you understand your type, or types, and how to end the cycle. Because this is an online self-sabotage program, we’ve wondered which psychological
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We all want to live happy lives. Sometimes, however, it seems like we’ve become experts at avoiding happiness. If you are missing out on your share of happiness, you may have unconscious beliefs that make it impossible to
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You might not believe the extreme measures I took to win my older brother’s approval. They all failed. When I started businesses that succeeded against the odds, he shrugged his shoulders. When I took up expensive hobbies (that
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How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved? Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe
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Do you wish you knew how to be more positive? Do you wish you were a more positive person in general? Do you meet positive people and wonder why they aren’t more negative? Inner negativity is a universal
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Weak emotional boundaries are amongst the most confusing of psychological issues because it is very difficult to self-diagnose weak boundaries. Because the emotional boundaries (rules, expectations, protocol) that set the stage for our relationships are initially formed when
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Many people are surprised to learn that their favorite coping mechanism for handling emotional pain actually causes more problems than it solves. Let’s look at four solid steps to effectively dealing with emotional pain and five reactions that
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Are you a control freak? Or do you live with a control freak? This article will prove that a control freak is not at all what she (or he) seems. With control freaks, what you see is NOT
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Do you sometimes experience feelings or behaviors that you cannot explain? Most people have an area of their life that just doesn’t add up. When you factor in all that you know, you just can’t make sense of
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It’s February 10th, four days before Valentine’s Day. My wife and I are meeting with Michael Grinder to plan our next online training module. Michael is on our training team delivering NLP training to our Japanese students. This
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This article is likely to provoke the following defenses: Anger, disbelief, mirth, shame, confusion, blame, fear, intellectual scorn, emotional paralysis, self-criticism, other criticism, a numb feeling and other means of avoiding the truth. Read on with caution, and
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Most people have a secret buried so deep that they forget all about it, but that doesn’t make it less real. So many of us lock this difficult truth away, often taking it to the grave without ever
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Are you struggling to create a behavioral change or a develop a new habit? Fewer things are more frustrating than failing to make changes that appear to be so simple. It’s as if you were convinced you could
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An iNLP life coaching student recently asked if she needed to do anything to prepare a strategy session with me. After I replied to her email, I realized that I had just discovered the simplest success formula ever!
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Would you like to have a few ways to gain inner peace on the spot no matter what the circumstance? You are in luck, here are 91 ways to inner peace! If so, you will find 91 things
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It can be incredibly frustrating dealing with family members who have serious problems. Because we love them so much, it is hard to see them behaving in hurtful ways that make everyone around them miserable. But what can
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Living a life tainted by regret is a burden carried by far too many. Immersed in the circumstances of the past, you are blind to hope and chained to thoughts of how things might have been. If now
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This is a guest post by iNLP student Kelli Cooper. None of us are perfect, no major revelations there. We know this. But, I think on some level, many of us who seriously take on the path of
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We usually refer to the physical body when we talk about cleansing and detoxification, but emotional cleansing yields results for the mind and emotions that are just as impressive as any good physical detox. An emotional cleanse isn’t
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We all know the feeling that comes with being criticized or verbally attacked. The initial response of shock, fear and anger seem to be hardwired. Learning some Jedi mind tricks is essential for a jedi to survive. Defensiveness
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Do you think you are too smart to fall for a life coach guru scam? Think again. All over the web, self-proclaimed gurus are telling you lie after blatant lie in order to get your money and pump
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The NLP Meta Model is a godsend for managing vague, ambiguous communication. Without the instinctual ability to generalize, humans wouldn’t get very far. Think about it. When you’re growing up and learning what things are and how they
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