Personal Development

I used to tell my ex-husband that it felt as if we were ping-ponging against each other in our relationship. I would do something that would cause him to react that would, in turn, cause me to react, […]

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Want to feel good all day? This simple to-do list formula can keep you feeling good all day. It’s a fact, when you accomplish tasks, you feel good. But, sometimes you just can’t get that task accomplished. Often,

Overcoming Obstacles in Life with NLP: Overview of 4-Step Process This four-step process for identifying and overcoming obstacles that can be readily dealt with using NLP tools, as well as overcoming obstacles that are external – real-world limitations.

One day, my wife Hope was a hard working home school mom without a personal goal. Becoming a bikini mom was the furthest thing from her mind. Ninety days later, she was standing on stage in front of

I won’t pull punches here because I know the following applies to me, too. Enlightenment isn’t all love and light. It’s not for wimps. Enlightenment embraces the truth. And the truth can be hard to face. Lying to

If we had perfect foreknowledge of the future, there would be no such thing as uncertainty. Learning how to build resilience will provide greater certainty. However, we do not have perfect foreknowledge and never will. Therefore, uncertainty and

Seriously.. It’s finally time to get out of your own way. But how? The most interesting part of getting in our own way is how blind we are when doing it. Think about it. Who really wants to

Can you say it? I am emotionally attached to the negativity in my past. That attachment interferes with my present-day life as an adult. I remember entering therapy for the first time 30 years ago. I interviewed several

People do self-sabotaging things all the time, but these behaviors aren’t the cause of self-sabotage. They are the result of it. When you get in your own way, limit yourself, or attract all the wrong outcomes in your

How do we grow our true self and why is this so important? Your life is a unique experience, a marvelous journey that is always moving into the unknown. The best part of the experience happens after discovering

Ever wondered how how simple thoughts affect your body? Have you put off learning how to control your thoughts? Recent research shows how dramatically even the simplest thoughts affect the body. Most people are aware of the fact

I’m not here to tell you that non-verbal communication is more influential than verbal communication. You already know that, right? Yet, how can you harness the power of non-verbal communication without spending years studying it? You’ll have four

I feel happy a lot of the time. But when I get stuck feeling unhappy, I typically find twisted logic pinging around in my brain. This twisted logic keeps me invested in hanging onto the bad feelings. In

Do you need to learn how to make changes that seem impossible? Losing weight, making lots of money, feeling confident, being at peace, changing a relationship…can seem out of reach. When you’ve been a certain way for a

Driving my teenage daughters to school this morning, I was pissed. Traffic was slow. Then, we got stuck behind a school bus. I pounded the steering wheel. “Ah, man! Why did people have to let that bus in!”

Are there parts of yourself that you hate? For some, these are physical parts. You hate your nose, your lips, your thighs, belly or ankles because you believe they are so ugly. For others, a psychological part is

Can you visualize success as a way to improve your performance in life? People who’ve been through our life coach certification have always said YES. Research now says yes, too. And, the success runs deeper than you might

Lack of motivation is one of the top problems life coaches encounter with their clients. It’s so common! Do you lack motivation? Good news! A few key insights can take you from no motivation to go-getter faster than

Did you used to be happy, filled with positive emotions, not much got you down? Maybe. But, if you believe that negative emotions are the only ones people avoid, consider that you might be avoiding the positive ones,

According to research, the average American lies 11 times a week. This surprising finding inspired other researchers to establish a connection between lying and health. They found one. Officially, medical research suggests that telling “fewer” lies increases your

Can’t find the path to inner peace? Change. That’s the name of the game in the personal development world. If you are not selling change, people aren’t interested. This, of course, inspires personal development gurus to promise change

Have you ever wondered what things happy couples do differently than us? How do they act so happy? Are they just lucky? In NLP, we model ourselves after people who have already achieved what we want. If you

Classic NLP decision strategies are part of NLP practitioner training and effective to break bad habits. First thing in the morning, I get up and make a pot of coffee. No biggie. It’s just a routine. And I’m

This is a guest post by Zen Motivation Student Kelli Cooper There is always a reason why we do the things we do and want the things we want. Sometimes though, as we all know, those reasons are

Note: This page is a work in progress. As our understanding of the attachment to rejection develops, the information here will be updated. The information below is not intended to diagnose or treat any mental health condition and

⚠️ Warning! To work on yourself first does not mean overworking in general or indulging others. You know you need to work on yourself before expecting others to change. But it’s so hard to stop blaming, right? Well,

Sales techniques are a dime a dozen. However, the secret of how to make more sales begins with creating the right plan. You must know specifically what you need to do. You’ll need to create your plan in

Are you wondering, “Why am I so insecure?”. That’s a total normal question that most women ask. Look at Jennifer Aniston – she’s gone through it as well! Jennifer Aniston went through her awkward stage when she was

Working with people toward overcoming perfectionism, I notice their personality types don’t accurately reflect their authentic self. Instead, they measure themselves by what they believe they should be or could be, rather than who they actually are. When

You may need to learn how to stop people-pleasing if you’re overwhelmed and the to-do list just keeps growing. The immense guilt you feel just thinking of saying no, mixed with worry that others will think less of

For decades, NLP practitioners have been teaching a simple yet profound technique that puts problems in perspective and leads to solid, healthy decisions. We teach the NLP technique called visual dissociation right here in our online NLP training

Let’s talk about dealing with uncertainty because intolerance of uncertainty can really get under your skin and disrupt your entire life. Certainty is like a warm blanket for the soul. We crave it. We need it. Can you

Are you suffering from lack of appreciation from your man? If so, you may find the following perspective on men to be very enlightening. It might even spur you into action to get the appreciation you deserve. It’s

Are you wondering how to communicate boundaries and really be heard? To inform someone that they are crossing a boundary in a relationship can be quite a challenging task, right? So, learning how to communicate boundaries in a relationship is

We all experience at some point in our life people who don’t respect personal boundaries and just leave us feeling not good. Simply put they are toxic. So, how do you deal with someone who doesn’t respect boundaries?

To understand “Why Am I Never Satisfied” one must gain insights into the actions and philosophies that will help take their life towards satisfaction and fulfillment and bring meaning to their life while ridding them of the constant

Most people think, when faced with an incredible loss, they just have to hunker down and get through the pain and suffering. For the most part it’s true. However, the grieving process can be a great opportunity for

A cancer diagnosis, surgery, and dental procedures can cause different levels of anxiety. Being prepared with NLP techniques will help with the stress of routine or unexpected procedures. The NLP techniques of association, dissociation, reframing, anchoring, and using

It’s easy to fall in love. Too easy. Our biochemicals make it such that we can fall head over heels, get physical and feel attached to someone who is a virtual stranger. Commitments are made. Lives are rearranged.

Would you like to possess overflowing self-confidence? Self-confidence gives you the solid sense of certainty you need to make the right decisions, take positive action, and provide leadership or support to others. You can, regardless of what you