If the foundational skills NLP has to offer werenât unique, Iâd leave the field. Alas, we must put up with the battery of lies that âsearch engine popularâ NLP trainers tell every single day.
These slick guys and gals are only interested in your pocket book, my friends. Otherwise, theyâd tell the truth. As it stands, they are about as truthful as a stereotypical used car salesman.
Here are some of the current NLP lies youâll find online. You can use NLP to:
An outright lie. If NLP were this magical, no NLP practitioner would need to advertise. The masses would line up, beating a path to door of anyone with such superpowers. Addiction recovery centers would go out of business. The junk food industry would vanish. The world would be quite a different place.
If any NLP liar happens to be reading this and wants to PROVE ME WRONG, then letâs do it. Weâll gather 100 people with unwanted habits. You can work with them for âminutesâ each and letâs see how well they do over the next six months.
Any takers? No? I thought so.
The truth: You can overcome bad habits. Overcoming habits will probably take time. There is no magic bullet. Habits are often rooted in deep, psychological attachments that require sorting out. Some of our deepest learning occurs when we consciously struggle to understand why we are attached to something that is not good for us. Don’t deny yourself the learning process! That is what makes the change lastâ¦
Yeah, as if you were a programmable robot. Is this their idea of emotional health? That you can instantly feel whatever you want, whenever you want, on autopilot? Sorry, no.
Your mind and body are complex. If you struggle with unwanted feelings or have a hard time accessing the most empowering state right when you need it, welcome to LIFE. We all struggle. Weâre all human.
Do you really want to learn from someone who pretends to program people (I must apologize for the name, Neuro-Linguistic Programming here. The gentleman who named the field has delusions of his own, no doubt.)
Wouldnât you be better off learning about emotional health from an emotionally mature person? Someone who understands that life is not about feeling what you want when you want, instantly and automatically?
Really? Instant connection with anyone, anytime? Is this their idea of intimacy or something? Those of us who value real connection realize that you cannot âinstantlyâ create genuine connection with âanyone, anytime, anywhere.â
Real connections are special. They take time, personal vulnerability and awareness to form. Otherwise, they wouldnât be all that special, would they? NLP has some useful tools to deepen connections. They need to be applied wisely and consistently.
Instant is cheap.
Now thatâs impressive. We are programming instinct now, eh? Youâve outdone yourselves, guys. Wow. I’m speechless.
The most powerful lie is the implied fantasy that âNLPâ will do things for you, as if it were some sort of magic pill that will solve all your problems so you don’t have to. This puts the almighty NLP trainer in the driver seat with his coveted âsecretsâ that you can access only by opening your wallet (wide).
And it dis-empowers YOU, suggesting you remain passive while “NLP” fixes you. For people hanging onto the childlike hope that something will fix them someday, this grandaddy lie is a real hook. It’s sad.
Learn the real NLP, which is an eye-opening and very useful set of skills. It’s unique and well-worth the effort and a reasonable investment. It takes time and practice to get the basics. Mastering NLP takes a lifetime, and the process is a fascinating journey filled with discovery.
We donât need to tell outrageous lies in order to sell NLP. The truth is enough.