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Have you ever considered the phases life coaching? If you want to be successful as a coach or client, you should.
Three clear phases make up a successful life coaching process.
Phase three is where the magic happens. Phase two may kill your spirits, however. If you’re a coach, understanding the following phases may help you set your practice up for success.
If you’re a client, knowing the big picture presented here might save you from sabotaging your success.
Life coaching phase one is the easy one. You begin with your coach. You’re open minded and hopeful. You feel like you’re going to get a lot out of the process. You’re eager to move ahead to your vision of success and get past your obstacles.
Hope for a better life is the reason we all sign up for coaching. Hope is abundant in phase one. Enjoy!
Phase two is the great life coach slayer. A small percentage of people never protest the process, but most do.
Here’s why: If the life coaching is powerful, changes will begin to occur. You’ll start healing inner negativity. You’ll begin to expand limitations. You’ll be exploring a new ways of being and integrating a series of profound insights. A whole new world at your fingertips!
Somewhere inside you, the conflict has been building. Old habits and older parts of your psyche activate and stage a massive protest of all this change. You have been a certain way for a long time. Deeper aspects of you prefer – and cling to – familiarity.
When you start to shift, your subconscious mind will resist the changes.
So, you start to get symptoms. Lack of motivation, discouragement, excuses, anger, self-criticism and all kinds of self-sabotage come to life.
You may begin finding reasons to skip your coaching appointments. You may fear success or failure. You may begin to find fault with your coach. You may not want to spend the money for coaching any longer.
In short, you are protesting changes that are occurring – and seeking justification for putting the brakes on the whole thing. Ironically, the protest is a testament to the changes. It means that coaching is working. Otherwise, there would be no protest!
The best thing to do is anticipate the protest from the start. Understand that such resistance is part of the healing process. You can say to yourself, “Aha, here is my personal protest to the great progress we’ve been making. OK. Now, to weather this storm.”
Otherwise, you are likely to believe the protest is “real” and “final” and give up on yourself.
If you stick with your process and work your way through the protest (with the indispensable help of your coach), you’ll begin to heal and change permanently. Phase three is where the magic happens. You’ve weathered the storm, practiced various interventions and gotten to know yourself so much better.
With time, you become stronger than your protest. This can be the most empowering time in your life. When you rise above your self-inflicted inner protest, there is nothing left to conquer, except the world!
Sadly, many clients don’t make it through phase two. I believe the reason for this, in part, is they do not understand that phase two is temporary inner protest (although it can last much longer than you want).
Most people give up too soon because they don’t understand that phase two is a phase – and one that ushers in the real healing.
Moral of the story: Phase two, that nasty protest, is the key to healing and success. If you anticipate phase two, embrace it, and weather the storm, the magic of phase three is unlocked.
If you’re interested in being coached through your protest, then book an introductory appointment with me. There is no charge for this initial consult. I’ll explain these stages in more detail and answer your questions about how to get the most out of your coaching process.
Then, who knows, you may want to hire to me to be your coach, especially if other kinds of coaching have not yielded the results you’re looking for.
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