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How I Ended Self-Sabotage and Created a New Career Path
The following is a guest post by Dr. Janice Walton of The Learning Corner, an online counseling supervision provider.
In November of 2002, I set a goal of creating a website that offered online coaching, consulting, and supervision for mental health professionals.
I spent the next 11 years sabotaging my goal in every possible way using excuses, doubts, and negative messages.
I told myself that I didn’t know how, it wouldn’t work, it was a waste of time, it was a waste of money, and it wouldn’t be any different than any other website.
A year ago, I learned about a part of the brain known as the Default Mode Network or DMN. The DMN is busiest when the mind is at rest because it continually chatters creating negative thoughts and feelings.
To overcome the negativity of the DMN, a behavioral change approach known as neurolinguistic programming (NLP) can be used to quiet the chatter so healthier thoughts can emerge.
As I had been suffering from plenty of negative chatter and because I really wanted to develop a website, I decide to try the iNLP Center’s Tame the DMN program.
The first step was to write down the words “creating a website” on a piece of paper. Then, I documented the repetitive thoughts, feelings, fears, excuses, and doubts in my mind.
After all of the internal chatter was expressed, I focused externally on the trees outside my office window watching the leaves move in the breeze until my mind calmed.
Finally, I wrote the same words on a different piece of paper and, to my surprise, very different thoughts emerged. I thought maybe I don’t have to do it alone! I can hire someone to design the website. It is worth the effort and I’ll never know if I don’t try. I really do want the website to be successful.
About two weeks later, I found the name of a woman who designed websites and hired her. I registered for a training to become a Master NLP practitioner, got a certificate as a coach, and found an editor. Today, my website is up and running.
Dr. Janice Walton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with certificates in coaching, supervision in the recovery field, and NLP (Neurolinguistic Programing ). She currently teaches online Psychology courses for Kaplan, Argosy, and Grand Canyon Universities on topics such as The Psychology of Criminal Behavior, Juvenile Justice, Social and Cultural Diversity, Counseling Theories, and Ethics in Practice.
Dr. Walton has supervised and trained over 100 master’s level and pre-doc trainees, as well as interns working toward licensure. The group and individual supervision is conducted face-to-face, and by phone, e-mail, and Skype.
Mike Bundrant is a retired psychotherapist, Master NLP trainer, and practicing life coach. He and his wife, Hope, founded iNLP Center in 2011. For information on coaching with Mike, please visit his coaching website AHA System.