Self-sabotage should be the last thing anyone does, but it’s the most likely! You’re invited to watch the AHA Process to End Self Sabotage and learn how to stop self-sabotaging behavior.
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It’s so easy to justify.
…one argument, one trip to the fridge, one beer—and in the moment, they may even seem helpful. But like a river eroding away rocks, self-sabotage creates a Grand Canyon of self-defeat from which it’s hard to climb out.
~ Scientific American
Right? We slip into it without a second thought. In the heat of the moment, we want it. Self-sabotaging behaviors seem like the right thing to do at the time. It may even feel impossible to stop.
It’s when you get in your own way. And it’s hard to pin down.
• Impulsive actions
• Avoiding conflict
• Giving up on a goal
• Obsessing about a goal
• Not speaking up
• Talking too much
• Breaking a diet
They’re all self-sabotage. And none of them are. It all depends. And if you really want to get confused, try pinning down the points of view that sabotage you and create self-fulfilling prophecies.
Stopping self-sabotage requires starting somewhere. The AHA Process to End Self-Sabotage video is the first step. Please enter your email address below to get started. The only thing you have to lose is freedom, if you move on without giving the video a few moments. More than 100,000 people have watched it since 2014. We still get feedback from viewers every day. It’s powerful.
If you are self-sabotaging, get your notepad. Write down new insights during the video. Some have called it a missing link in mental health and personal development. That sounds over the top to us. Still,
How is the AHA Process different?
In a world of shallow promises and quick-fix techniques, real solutions are hard to find. Self-sabotage is not a shallow issue. The solution isn’t shallow either. Yet, we present the AHA Process in an easy-to-follow way. You’ll see the concept and hear some simple stories. And it can change your whole feeling about self-sabotage.
Have you ever changed when you learned something that never occurred to you? Take notes. You’re about to discover the “never occurred to you” of self-sabotaging thoughts and behavior.
You can get a free book on the hidden cause of self-sabotage. Your Achilles Eel: It’s a strange little book. Check it out. If you don’t like it, we’re sure you’ll agree it’s different!
Download Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions, and Self-Sabotage. You can also get it on Kindle (nearly free).
2. Peter Michaelson’s website is full of unique insights. Peter was instrumental in teaching us the underpinnings of self-sabotaging behavior. We’ll always be grateful for his deep expertise and encouragement.
Check out Peter Michaelson’s Why We Suffer.
My favorite quote from Peter (condensed):
Without realizing it, we make inner choices to feel deprived or refused – or helpless, criticized, rejected, betrayed, or abandoned. Doing this defies common sense, but our unconscious mind operates on irrational, not rational, principles.
He also has a new book out called Who’s Afraid of Inner Truth?
If you don’t like my writing on self sabotage, give Peter’s a chance. If you do like how I treat the subject, give Peter a chance!
Self sabotage can boil down to inner conflict. Check out this comprehensive piece on Thrive Global. It’s a tour-de-force on the most important issue anyone faces.
The underlying cause of self sabotage is a psychological attachment. This article is one of the most popular posts on the iNLP Center website.
Here’s an important book unrelated to self sabotage. But M. Scott Peck’s view of discipline, love, and grace is essential to overcoming self-defeating behaviors. If you haven’t read The Road Less Traveled yet, now is the time!
Like the iNLP Center Facebook Page. This may be shameless promotion, but you’ll get updates on new posts and research. We certify life coaches and teach Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Self-sabotage is a primary area of focus in our personal growth work.
Check out 20 Ways you Might be Punishing Yourself. This post is the introduction to an email coaching program. The email coaching is often closed to new enrollment, yet is an inexpensive way to work on the issue.
We’ll continue adding resources as time allows.
Don’t give up. I searched for 20 frustrating years for the answer to a simple question:
Why don’t people (myself included) apply what they already know?
In my career, I’ve had many opportunities to interview celebrities and leaders. See the list for yourself. I asked everyone that question. The answers to why we don’t do what’s in our best interest always boiled down to… Just do it!
Thanks, Nike. You’re right. Do it.
“Yeah, but that’s the problem, isn’t it?” I would reply. “No one is just doing it!”
That got some laughs, and then…nothing. I never pushed further, but the questions plagued me. Why don’t I just do it? What’s wrong with me? Will it ever be different?
At long last, I understand why we don’t apply what we already know. When I get in my own way, I can get out. And I know how to handle not wanting to get out of my own way. The solution to self-sabotage has changed my life (no, I’m not perfect). I hope your life will change, too (but don’t expect perfection).
Join us and watch our free video. I’ve put too many forms on this page, so this is your last chance:) See you on the other side.