Being stuck is one of my all-time favorite places to be. In fact, I’ve never been so lucky as when I’ve been overwhelmed with fear and personal misery.
Over time, I’ve managed to turn nearly every single one of my major issues into a personal profit. This short note is going to show you how I did it, and you can, too.
I can distinctly remember being 23 years old, standing in the tiny kitchen of my apartment. The song, “The Wall” by Kansas was playing.
The path that I have chosen now has led me to a wall…. It rises now before me, A dark and silent barrier between, All I am, And all that I would ever want to be.
For the life of me, I could not figure out why that wall was there and what could be done about it. I’ve never been more mentally and emotionally stuck – ever. Nothing in my life was going as planned and I couldn’t get myself to exercise even a modicum of personal discipline to make corrections.
Nonetheless, I wouldn’t trade my personal trials for anything. The panic and fear, relationship hell and money issues in my personal history have been my greatest teachers. I know that sounds cliche’. But it’s true.
I’ve made a living by learning from these awful emotional challenges. And life has gotten so much better, with fewer and fewer stuck places.
What do I have to thank for it?
How can you profit from your stuckness?
Use your stuckness as a way to help others who are undoubtedly stuck with similar issues.
That’s the great thing about NLP. There’s always a way to do just that. Here is the pattern I use, when I am stuck, to move my life and business forward.
1. Get good and stuck.
You may not have to try very hard to do this. Sometimes it’s a easy as comparing the life you want (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, in relationships) with the life you’ve got.
Focus on what’s missing, then beat yourself up for it.
It works, doesn’t it? At the time, I was monumentally stuck in every major area of my life, with no conceivable idea of how I could make it any different.
2. Design a way to help others who are similarly stuck.
Of course, you may wonder who you think you are to develop solutions that help others with issues you haven’t solved for yourself.
Yet, there’s deeper reasoning behind this strategy than meets the eye.
It involves the NLP technique called Dissociation (NLP Practitioner Training, Module 4). When you set out to design solutions for others, it distances you from the emotional entanglement that keeps you stuck in your own stuff.
In NLP, we learn specifically how to mentally step back and look at the big picture. From there, solutions present themselves effortlessly.
When you design a plan of action for others, you’re dissociated from your own stuckness and can now think productively.
There are lots of ways to dissociate. This is one I’ve used over the years.
To do all of the above, you will need NLP training, of course. The good news is that NLP training is the best investment you could possibly make in yourself. It will give you the foundation and the tools to do exactly what I am suggesting.
3. Test the solution on yourself.
This is where the rubber meets the road. Now that you know how others can solve the stuckness, you can apply the solution to yourself. As it begins to work, you’ll become more hopeful and resourceful.
Important: If your new protocol doesn’t work for you, go back to step 2 and redesign.
4. Spread the word.
You’ve now been stuck, and gotten unstuck. Now, tell everyone you know. People are interested in how to get unstuck, as it seems to be a universal phenomenon. If you know how to get unstuck in an area of life, people will want to learn from you.
And they deserve to know.
In fact, you can build a business around helping people get unstuck. This is what coaching, therapy, consulting and personal development seminars are all about.
Best of all, your solutions for others will come from your own personal experience. These are the most powerful kind of solutions.
Are you in?
Then you simply must learn NLP! It opens up so many opportunities.
Mike Bundrant is a retired psychotherapist, Master NLP trainer, and practicing life coach. He and his wife, Hope, founded iNLP Center in 2011. For information on coaching with Mike, please visit his coaching website AHA System.