Coping with grief and loss can be a hard thing to go through! It might be a parent, child, friend, or even a pet. Death doesn’t have to cause it. It could be grieving over a broken-up relationship. Experiencing grief in any form is painful.
Each person copes with grief and loss in different ways. It all comes down to the emotion that is attached to that pain. In this case, it would be grief and loss due to the death of someone close to you.
When we lose someone we love it is like a shot to the heart! It’s like a bullet went directly through a piece of your heart and took a piece with it leaving a missing hole and a wake of destruction behind it. Your entire world changes in the blink of an eye. As if the pain wasn’t bad enough, the aftermath is another ballgame in itself!
At first, the aftershock has to wear off that they are gone. It’s like your mind doesn’t even want to accept it. You think that any minute you are going to wake up and it’ll all be over. Then, after a while when you realize that this is really happening and now the acceptance comes. However, with that acceptance comes the pain and emptiness of all the hurt and loss. It is devastating!
Some people try to ignore it or even let it consume their every thought. Some people don’t want to talk about it and there are others who do. Some people want to talk about the person they lost while others would cry uncontrollably if you mentioned the deceased person’s name. I am not saying any of this is wrong or bad. I’m just saying this is what happens.
Human beings have a difficult time with death. We don’t realize how little time we have with someone until they are not with us anymore. Then we wish we had more of that time with them. Is it in our nature to do things like this? I think it might be in our nature. However, we can break that cycle and start turning things around to live a happier, more fruitful life.
Death is a hurtful experience to have to go through, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Other people have lost loved ones and fought through the pain to find joy in life again. You can have that happen for you too! The first step in that direction is knowing that you can do it too! It is a choice you’re going to have to make for yourself. However, this choice, even if it seems easy, takes a strong amount of will power to make and to keep.
Are you telling yourself, “Maybe I should start coping with my grief and loss so it doesn’t consume me anymore.”
If you are saying this to yourself take consideration of the things mentioned below that can help.
1) Pay attention to if your current behavior is resourceful to you and others around you no matter how you feel (I know this is difficult, but it is important, to be honest with yourself).
2) Engage in activities or hobbies that are fulfilling to you and bring joy to your life.
3) When you must face difficult situations do all you can to put your best foot forward and honor the person that you love with your resilience and love for life.
4) Reach out for help. It is perfectly fine to reach out to a trusted friend, a counselor, or a grief coach to work through your grief. We will not always be at our clearest thinking during these times and can often use a helping hand to manage our grief.
A specialized grief coach is one of the greatest resources we can take advantage of when coping with grief and loss.
I have been there and gone through it and am happy to share with you how I did it and how it can help you!
There is no shame in needing assistance when coping with grief and loss. You are only one step away from resourcefully managing your grief and recapturing the best version of you.
It can be done. I have done it and so can you!
Learn more here about how you can take control of your grief!