Communication Skills

NLP offers the most advanced set of communication skills ever developed. Study our communications skills articles listed on this page to learn more.

People naturally develop the essential communication skills to function in society. All you need to do to get the basics for your culture is hang around your family of origin and attend a school of some sort. However, developing advanced communication skills – really achieving a level of mastery – requires much more experience, education and practice.

Read these communication skills to learn how to integrate NLP into your life. Enhance your communication skills with NLP!

Communication Skills Articles

Relationship Killers : Avoid These Four Everyday Words

Building strong relationships with others is essential in all areas of our lives: business, friendships, dating, parenting, etc. However, our daily word choices can undermine our attempts at getting closer to other people. We can unwittingly be marking ourselves as untrustworthy,...  

Conflict Resolution Strategies : Don’t Get Sucked into an Argument

Arguments are stressful but happen. Learning conflict resolution strategies is important to turning verbal conflict into productive communication. In theory, every single argument in life can be completely avoided. You do not need to get sucked in. You don’t need...  

The Importance of Communication Skills [Top 10 Studies]

Importance of Communication Skills – Get Inspired! Never underestimate the importance of communication skills. This post reviews 10 scientific studies in varied areas of life. Each study underscores how important communication skills are and highlights the surprising benefits of using...  

The Overlooked Foundation of Fulfilling Relationships

It’s easy to fall in love. Too easy. Our biochemicals make it such that we can fall head over heels, get physical and feel attached to someone who is a virtual stranger. Commitments are made. Lives are rearranged. And then...  

Help! My boss hates me! NLP for Sales Makes Sense of It

If you have a boss or sales manager that hates you, what to do may surprise you. We’ll show you how using NLP for sales can make sense of it. I remember in detail a young sales executive that continuously...  

What to Do (and NOT Do) to Get Others to Change

It’s one of the first things NLP practitioners screen for… When someone desires a specific outcome, make sure that he or she is in control of it. If the desired outcome requires someone else to change, then the outcome itself...  

Four Ways to Empower Yourself with Non-Verbal Communication

I’m not here to tell you that non-verbal communication is more influential than verbal communication. You already know that, right? Yet, how can you harness the power of non-verbal communication without spending years studying it? You’ll have four great ideas...  

Let your Kids Squirm: It’s Important

I remember sitting in church as a child, bored to tears. And, for the life of me, I couldn’t sit still. If the church and my mother had only understood that I needed to squirm to learn, a lot more...  

I’m In A Healthy Relationship and I Hate It

Recently I received the following note from a reader: So the story about the woman who was in the marriage for 13 years and she hated her husband and realized she was secretly into rejection…Yeah, I get that. But I...  

What Makes Teams of Highly Paid Experts Fail Miserably

You want to solve a serious problem, so you call in the big guns. Assembling teams of experts to address tough issues – in business, healthcare, education and beyond – is a common approach when the going gets tough. Putting...  

4 Reasons Why Your Man Doesn’t Appreciate You

Are you suffering from lack of appreciation from your man? If so, you may find the following perspective on men to be very enlightening. It might even spur you into action to get the appreciation you deserve. It’s part of...  

Three Delusions that Lead to Chronic Arguing, High Stress and Early Death

Arguing is a normal part of any close relationship, right? Yet, when you consider the delusions that lead to arguments and the proven detriment to your health, you may begin to reconsider just how “normal” all those arguments really are....  

How to Create Rapport, Connection and Trust on Purpose

Want to know how to Create Rapport, Connection and Trust? We all want these in our personal and professional relationships. Yet, how often do we intentionally set out to create them? And if we did set such a conscious intention,...  

Counselors: How to Build Natural Rapport with NLP

If the relationship between a counselor and client is not strong, if rapport is not established, effective counseling is very unlikely to occur. To that end, NLP offers several strategies. To build natural rapport with clients more quickly, follow the...  

The Hidden Obstacle to Becoming Naturally Assertive

What would happen in your life if you were more assertive when you need to be? For most people who lack assertiveness, miracles would happen. You’d be able to speak up and get what you need from others. You’d be...  

Research: Husband’s Attitude is the Key to a Happy Marriage

Watch out, men. Here it comes. Some credible scientists now claim that it is YOUR attitude that makes or breaks your marriage. Could it be true? First, let’s look at the evidence. Then, we can draw some fair conclusions and...  

How to Be an Example for your Kids while Struggling with your Own Issues

A lot of us parents think we need to project an image of perfection to our kids. No, we aren’t struggling. No, we don’t argue with our spouse. And, of course, we aren’t filled with anxiety! Everything is fine. We...  

Top 6 Relationship Arguments Offered by Impossible People (and what to do about them)

Are you in a relationship with an impossible person? You probably didn’t intend for it to turn out this way. At the same time, impossible relationships don’t “just happen.” It actually takes two people. It’s a conundrum. You’re don’t participate...  

6 Ways Remaining Silent Creates Pain, Wrongdoing and Despair

Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind. Rudyard Kipling spoke these famous words to the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 1923. He continued: Not only do words infect, egotize, narcotize, and paralyze, but they...  

I Hate My Husband! Confession and Transformation for Married Women

Do you sometimes think you hate your husband? Can you become filled with resentment and bitterness when he walks into the room? When he touches you, do you cringe? Do you daydream of a life that is far different than...  

10 Signs you are NOT Ready for a Great Relationship

You don’t have to be single to wonder whether or not you are ready for a relationship. In fact, millions of people who aren’t really ready find themselves in the middle of relationships that are going….badly. Regardless of your status,...  

Cooling the Fire Testimonials

Here’s what some of our students have said about our Cooling the Fire program: Canale D.: I love the concept of this tool. I have always been a retaliator when attacked because i thought i was defending myself but this...  

Is Your Relationship a Ping-Pong Match?

I used to tell Mike that it felt as if we were ping-ponging against each other. I would do something that would cause him to react that would in turn cause me to react, and so on and so on,...  

Why Am I So Insecure?

“That all started in my 30’s,” Jennifer Aniston admits her insecurities began during her relationship to Brad Pitt. Jennifer Aniston went through her awkward stage when she was married to Brad Pitt. Instead of experiencing insecurities when she was younger...  

Research: Effect of Mother’s Moods on Long-Term Health of Children

People usually assume that a mother’s mood affects her child. Now, scientific evidence links the two in surprising ways. A study published in the Journal of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics showed a connection between maternal anxiety and depression and problem...  

5 Steps to Cure His Lack of Appreciation Once and for All

Are you tired of being taken for granted? You aren’t alone. In my research for this article, I’ve identified at least 100 articles from major news and psychology sources. Most of them cite lack of appreciation as a primary cause...  

Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently than the Rest (Based on Research)

In NLP, we model ourselves after people who have already achieved what we want. If you want to lose weight, go to someone who lost weight successfully and learn what they did. If you want to overcome a habit, find...  

Six Reasons Why People Stay in a Bad Relationship

A bad relationship is a living hell, yet millions of people stay in them – sometimes for life. Why? There are reasons. I recently set out to compare notes with my colleague, Jake Eagle of Reology.org. Jake is an extremely...  

NLP Meta Model: Questions that Turn your Life Right Side Up

The NLP Meta Model is a set of simple yet uncommon questions. Once you learn how to ask yourself and others the Meta Model questions, you’ll discover something amazing. What you actually thought was going on in your communication is...  

Dating, Relating and Mating – How to Get it Right!

Are you tired of having unfulfilled relationships, one right after another, even though you thought you were doing everything right? Learn about the… Breakthrough Philosophy Proven to Create Fulfilling Romantic Relationships That Stand the Test of Time “Relationships are difficult.”...  

When it’s Bad, this Common Relationship Slowly Kills You

Marriage is a boon to millions of well-adjusted couples who savor the intimacy and emotional safety that only a committed relationship can offer. Unhappy marriage, however, is a modern plague that is literally taking lives. And there is research to...  

How to Help your Spouse Be Kind to You: The No-Fail Formula

Are you wishing your spouse or significant other treated you with more kindness, love and respect? If so, I have good news and bad news: 1. The good:  I have formula that absolutely works when there is any potential for...  

You Want To Be Loved More, But…

You want your spouse, partners or friends to love you more, but are you up for it? If you’re like me, you tend to resist when others try to intervene in your life. This resistance is resistance to being loved....  

Have you Given your Independence Away?

Are you as independent as you’d like to be? Over the years I have personally asked hundreds of clients this very question. According to my estimation, 90% respond in the negative. Here’s how loss of perceived independence happens in so...  

How to Let Go of Painful, Negative Relationships

Would you voluntarily hop into a cage with an angry gorilla then wonder how you got stuck with the beast? Dang gorilla is about to kill me! Why should I have to put up with this? You don’t. You put...  

How to Express your Needs without Getting Shot Down

Every time I say what I need, it turns into an argument. So, I just give up, suck it up and go on feeling deprived and resentful. It’s no use speaking up because everyone is too busy to care. I...  

Turning Your Frog Back into a Prince (or princess)

How many people could have given you what you wanted if you actually wanted to be loved? Unfortunately, because of our deeper attachment to deprivation or rejection, we keep ourselves from receiving what would fulfill us. Or, maybe we actually...  

Recognizing your Spouse’s Self-Sabotage Brings You Freedom

Understanding where your spouse is coming from is key to being happier. Your spouse may have no interest at all in understanding him or herself, but by understanding his or her self-sabotage or psychological attachments you can keep him or...  

How to Know if you Have Weak Emotional Boundaries

Weak emotional boundaries are amongst the most confusing of psychological issues because it is very difficult to self-diagnose weak boundaries. Because the emotional boundaries (rules, expectations, protocol) that set the stage for our relationships are initially formed when we are...  

Love Languages of NLP – Using VAK to Increase Awareness

It’s February 10th, four days before Valentine’s Day. Hope and I are meeting with Michael Grinder to plan our next online training module. Michael is on our training team delivering NLP training to our Japanese students. This training had nothing...  

Living as RoomMates (Instead of SoulMates)

How does this happen? One day you were in love, excited to spend each moment together. Now, you’re feeling blah and just moving through life pretty much independently. Are you just so used to each other that you don’t notice...  

Why it’s So Hard to Tell the Truth

According to research, the average American lies 11 times a week. This surprising finding inspired other researchers to establish a connection between lying and health. They found one. Officially, medical research suggests that telling “fewer” lies increases your physical health....  

How to Help People Who Don’t Want Help

It can be incredibly frustrating dealing with family members who have serious problems. Because we love them so much, it is hard to see them behaving in hurtful ways that make every one around them miserable. But what can we...  

NLP Eye Movements: Can you tell when someone is lying?

This is a guest post from Duff McDuffee, trainer with the iNLP center. In NLP there is a model called Eye Accessing Cues. The developers of NLP noticed that when you ask a person to recall something visual, usually their...  

The Abe Lincoln Method of Handling Criticism

Have you ever been stung by unjust criticism? It can really get under your skin. Worse, if you can’t let it go, it eats away at you over time, for months or years in some cases. A single, unfortunate event...  

Steal Someone’s Confusion with this NLP Mind Trick

Have you ever felt the frustration of dealing with someone who is totally confused? Well, you don’t have to get frustrated. Just ‘steal’ their confusion with this friendly NLP mind trick. Confusion and other states are transferable. Much like a...  

Jedi Mind Tricks for Handling Criticism and Verbal Attacks

We all know the feeling that comes with being criticized or verbally attacked. The initial response of shock, fear and anger seem to be hardwired. Defensiveness flows so easily from these states. Once these emotions get a grip on you,...  

Your Blended Family – Seven Tips to Make it Better

I live in a blended family and it is one wild ride. At first, of course, everyone was excited about living together and then reality set in. When life in a blended family is challenging, what makes it so? My...  

NLP Meta Model and How it Applies

Generalizing: The NLP Meta Model could be called “The Gift That Leaves A Mess In Its Wake” Without the instinctual ability to generalize, humans wouldn’t get very far. Think about it. When you’re growing up and learning what things are...  

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